Mom refuses inpatient hospice, I can't stay here and care for her anymore. What are my options?

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DNL1996 Asked May 26, 2023

Mom refuses inpatient hospice, I can't stay here and care for her anymore. What are my options?

I don't know much about my options. I live out of state and I have to go home. My mom refuses inpatient care, is refusing to follow pain med directives, and can't be left alone. What can I legally do? We are working with hospice but they said I can't force her in. They also said she can't be alone. What can I do?

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DNL,

I certainly hope that your attempts to move her into a facility will be successful.

You are extremely wise to realize that her care is too much for you to handle.

She absolutely needs to be placed in a facility. Best wishes to you and your family.

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Disable the car for sure. Hide the pills. Ask social worker if Baker Act is a possibility. That provides for her involuntary hold while she is assessed.

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LTC - Long Term Care

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Your profile says this is ur MIL? Or are you talking in 3rd party?

I have to agree. Maybe Adult Protection Services can help you.

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Does your mom have dementia or reduced cognitive capacity?

Are you her health care proxy?

You can discontinue hospice service and take her to the Emergency Room. Ask to speak to a Social Worker there and tell them this is a "social admit" and that there is no one to care for her at home.

Does mom have the funds to pay for 24/7 in-home care?

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Contact a Social Worker, either through the hospital or the State. Tell them what is going on and that you are not able to be there any longer. They may have to place her in a LTC facility if she is a danger to herself at home alone. You are in no way required to stay there with her, but you need to inform a SW first before you leave.

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Thank you, this is most helpful to hear. What is an LTC facility?

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Why is she refusing hospice care? My mom died in a hospice care home and she was very satisfied with her care.

I hope you are able to convince her to enter a hospice facility.

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Im not sure. We are working with adult services now to try to figure out how to get her in a facility. The care sue now needs is beyond what we can handle.

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Who was caring for her before you came? How much longer does she have?

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Nobody, she was alone. She had a neighbor that would help her occasionally. She was very secretive about it. We had an oncologist call is on California to say they had done all they could. We flew right in and called hospice. She yells at them constantly. Today we are talking to a social worker. We can't live here for long and she refuses to come with us and physically can't now. She is also not following hospital protocols, trying to take the car, falling over, taking random pills. She is very incoherent a lot. She can't be left alone. Florida doesn't make it easy to figure out care.

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Mom refuses inpatient hospice, I can't stay here and care for her anymore. What are my options?

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