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Gloriaargentina Asked March 2023

Why my husband always complain about my cooking, he never did before and blame me for everything?

Two days ago at five in the morning he run out of the house we live near the water and my first thought was he jump into the canal in my night gown I took the car and started looking and found him at the end of our street and he blame me because his house was far away and I didn’t help him to find it😢😢

funkygrandma59 Mar 2023
Often times when a loved one with dementia starts wandering out of the house, it is time to have them placed in a memory care facility, where they will be kept behind locked doors, and kept safe.
Your husbands brain is now broken and will never get better only worse, so please don't take anything he does or says personal, as he no longer can control any of it.
It's heartbreaking, I know, but you now must do whatever it takes to keep him safe.
I wish you well in finding the right memory care for him.

NeedHelpWithMom Mar 2023
Don’t be so hard on yourself. You didn’t react wrongly to this situation. You were upset about him blaming you for everything. He’s confused and most likely frustrated as well.

I agree with the other posters on this thread. None of this is your fault.

Please speak to his doctor about recent changes in his behavior. Perhaps a medication could help him cope better.

Wishing you and your husband all the best.

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MicheleDL Mar 2023
Call your doctor's office for advice. Explain to your doctor that it might be helpful to make an appointment for your husband disquised as an appointment for a made-up ailment of yours, but actually for an evaluation for your husband. Make sure the staff knows and that they are on board with the ruse.

Join a Alzheimer/dementia support group. Your's is not a new story.
His complaints have nothing, NOTHING, to do with you.

All the best.

Beeshepard Mar 2023
Please take your husband to the doctors office. Obviously his behavior has changed drastically. It could be a brain tumor, early stages of Alzheimer / dementia the list is endless. If he has another episode before seeing a doctor, please call 911 they will admit him into the hospital immediately. Good luck!
gladimhere Mar 2023
Or it could be a UTI.
Fawnby Mar 2023
His brain is broken and will never be the same. Please look into residential care for him. The next time this happens something bad could happen to him.

I’m so sorry.

Gloriaargentina Mar 2023
I was not happy and I think I reacted wrong

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