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Hurtbymyfather Asked April 2022

My father refuses to talk to me or want me in his life. Is there anything I can do?

My grandmother, his mother, died years ago and left a large inheritance to me and my father has kept it and has been spending it. He is 83 and very ill and doesn’t have much time to live. He has told me he adopted a 40 yr old man he met in a bar and is leaving everything to him so I don’t get what I was given from my grandmother. Can he do this to me? I know about all the things he had illegally done in the past and hidden assets from the IRS and he knows I know so I think that’s why he is doing this to me. I’m in Texas and he lives in New Braunfuls Tx. Is there anything I can do? This man has no right to what belongs to me and for him to be ok to keep it all is wrong.

Hurtbymyfather Apr 2022
No I don’t know if he even has a will. At this point it’s not even about the money, it’s the fact that the man who is getting everything left to him has no remorse in keeping it. I just can’t let get away with it.

babsjvd Apr 2022
Interested to hear if there was a will..???

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JoAnn29 Apr 2022
As said, there had to be a Will. Thats the only way Gma could have left it to you. If there was a Will who was executor? If Dad he needed to Probate it if a large amount of money. He had certain criteria he had to follow, one was any beneficiaries received a copy of the Will. Once probated, the will is on file. If you were entitled to an inheritance you could have gone to Probate and put in a complaint.

If Grandma had no Will then someone becomes an Administer and does the same responsibilities of the Executor. Difference is, the State determines who inherits. If Dad is an only child, he would inherit. If other siblings, he would need to split the inheritance between him and them. Grandchildren are not counted if there are children.

If there was a Will and you were mentioned as beneficiary and did not receive your inheritance you should have gone to Probate then.

Midkid58 Apr 2022
Sadly, many times people TELL other people that they are leaving them x amount of money in their will.

And then, there IS no will. Nothing written down or made record of.

You're stuck. You cannot prove anything without a written will of some kind. The next of kin will inherit everything.

There has to be record somewhere of a will. Talk to a lawyer and see what options are yours.

My mother has held 'the will' over our heads for all our lives.. when I found out how ridiculously small the amount of the inheritance IS, I just laugh when she makes a scene about 'the will'. It's less than $10K and that won't change anyone's life.

She keeps making changes to it, so I would not be surprised to find that I am not even IN it anymore. And that's OK.

It does seem odd that you have waited years to make this an issue. Is it b/c he said he's going to leave what's left to a total stranger to you? This would bug me, but, it is what it is.
BurntCaregiver Apr 2022
Exactly, Midkid. There has to be a legal will. There is a copy of this (if one actually exists) filed at the probate court in the town the grandmother lived in.
A will that has already been filed and probated in court is public domain. Anyone can look that up.
BurntCaregiver Apr 2022
If your grandmother willed the inheritance to you, and I mean made out a legal will with a lawyer, your father would not have had access to any of it.
See what would have happened if she did it legally, is that if you were a minor at the time of her death the inheritance goes into trust for you until you reach legal adult age. Whoever was named as the Executor of your grandmother's will and estate would have filed the will with the probate court in her area. This is called opening an estate. This is the only way her bills could get paid (if she had any) or how any of her heirs named in her will can collect their property or money. If your grandmother made a legal will bequeathing her estate to you while surpassing her actual children, the probate court would have notified the lawyer who made her will at the time the will was filed. If you were a minor at the time of her death, when you turned legal age you would receive documents informing you of your inheritance.
You should first visit the probate court in the town or county your grandmother lived in and look up her will. They will have a copy of it.
It's unlikely that you were legally named in a will as her heir. If you were your father would have had no access to her money. More likely your grandmother named your father as her heir and trusted him to give you what she wanted you to have. Without being named in her will as an heir, you don't have a case.

AlvaDeer Apr 2022
Your grandmother left something to you.
How did your father get that?
If your grandmother did not safely and legally give you an inheritance, then there is no way to retrieve that at all by hearsay of someone who is dead many years.
If your father illegally confiscated through fraud your inheritance the statute of limitations is likely done.
If your father is leaving his stuff to a bar friend there is ZERO you can do about it.
You should see an attorney with the DOCUMENTS and with the FACTS in this case. The attorney will explain whether or not you have a legal action under the law.
If you do not, then move on with your own life knowing there will be no inheritance when the old man dies. And good riddance, basically, to someone that abusive. Leave him to heaven. Get on with life.

funkygrandma59 Apr 2022
How did your father get his mothers money if it was left to you? Did you actually see her will or are you just going on what your grandmother may have told you, and where is the will now? Do you have access to it?
Something is definitely fishy in Denmark, that's for sure.
Please seek legal advise, although since you say your grandmother died years ago, I'm not sure at this point if much can be done or not.
And I guess my final questions to you would be, if your grandmother died years ago, why are you just now wanting the money that's supposedly yours? Why did it take you so long if in fact it's rightfully yours? Something just doesn't make sense here.
Hurtbymyfather Apr 2022
My mother lived in Germany and came to the US and gave my father 100,000 cash for me, my sister and brother, who passed away in 2016. She trusted her son to do the right thing by placing it into a bank until she passed. My father said he adopted a 40yr old man thst he was leaving everything to him, but I’m not sure if he even did that. How can I find out? He lives in Travis County in Austin.. the man lives in his house. How can my father trust a stranger is what I don’t understand. How can I find out if my father has a will. Or even adopted an adult. I recently lost my 28 yr old son and my father didn’t even contact me knowing how hurt I am. I honestly have no money to hire an attorney to help me, so I guess I’m just going to have to let it go. I’m hurt my own father treats me as if I’m nothing to him.
MJ1929 Apr 2022
Do you have a copy of the will? Proof that he has the money? Proof that he still has it?

There may not be much you can do at this point, but I suggest you contact a trust and estate attorney for advice.

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