Thinking about the stages of age related loss, I’d far rather that Dad be encouraged by the dignity of being able to control his bodily functions than to slip easily into adult disposable underwear, or worse.
My grandmother never lost “control”, even when she was total care, nonverbal, and nearly blind.
My present LO became incontinent for both bowel and bladder shortly after her second COVID infection, while she was still aware enough to know that incontinence was her distressingly embarrassing reality.
Credit your dad, and let him discreetly attend to his needs with as little help as possible from you, and be alert to when he begins to need more help.
It's can be just exhausting getting up out of a chair 😞
*Energy Conservation* is a good strategy to cope for people getting worn out by their daily activities. It may include spacing outings to have rest days inbetween, a seat in the shower & definately could include a urinal to conserve energy.
I'd be ok with it as a helpful addition to his life.
My dad frequently used one. It was a far better alternative to trying to rush to the bathroom and falling. My dad also had congestive heart failure and the diuretics for that caused urgency and more frequent needs to go. The urinal was a help and not hard to empty and clean
My brother had great "urgency" at the end of life. Hurrying to make it to bathroom or even commode could result in an accident. This was common with many patients. Of course, allow him to have a urinal. They are cheap on Amazon.
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My grandmother never lost “control”, even when she was total care, nonverbal, and nearly blind.
My present LO became incontinent for both bowel and bladder shortly after her second COVID infection, while she was still aware enough to know that incontinence was her distressingly embarrassing reality.
Credit your dad, and let him discreetly attend to his needs with as little help as possible from you, and be alert to when he begins to need more help.
Good for you for your sensitive question!
*Energy Conservation* is a good strategy to cope for people getting worn out by their daily activities. It may include spacing outings to have rest days inbetween, a seat in the shower & definately could include a urinal to conserve energy.
I'd be ok with it as a helpful addition to his life.
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