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charlen74 Asked July 2021

I told my mum not to buy any fish. Any advice?

My mother has a shallow ceramic sink set into the ground in the garden which holds approximately 10 litres of water at the most. It has nothing in it and she has just been and bought 5 fish to go into it. There isn't enough space for one fish let alone 5. I have told her this before. She hasn't tested the water, it has no filtration, oxygenation etc..
Does anyone have any advice?

earlybird Jul 2021
Excellent idea, Stacy.

JoAnn29 Jul 2021
Your profile says nothing about Mom. Does she have a Dementia. How old is she that she does not understand what is involved with having fish?

Maybe "steal" them when she is not around and return them to the store. Explaining nicely that your Mom has no way to take care of these fish, telling them were she planned on putting them. When she asks where they are, tell her the cats must have gotten them and that is why you don't have fish.

Personally, I would not get her a fish tank unless your willing to do all the maintenance.
charlen74 Jul 2021
Thanks for your reply and suggestions - I've now updated my profile.

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gladimhere Jul 2021
I used to go trolling for fish with my dad, many years ago. Anyone else? 😊🐌🐌🐬🐙🐠🐟🐋🐳🐊

After googling I think the fish must have been northern pike, in northern Minnesota.
ThomasY Jul 2021
Yep. Used to do the same thing. Walleyes were the main goal.
Beatty Jul 2021
I'm thinking a local cat has or will soon enjoy a nice fish supper.
charlen74 Jul 2021
Yes, several cats prowl around the garden.
Countrymouse Jul 2021
Actually, Charlen, I've stopped feeling cross with your mother and switched to thinking about what utter numpty *sold* her the fish without asking anything about how they were to be looked after. Do you know where she got them?
charlen74 Jul 2021
Yes, I have felt like going to lambast the person who sold her the fish.
polarbear Jul 2021
If your mother likes fish, and can take care of them, you can take her to go buy a proper aquarium with a filtration system to put the fish in. Taking care of pets gives her a purpose and something fun to do and keep busy.

If your mother doesn't or won't take care of the fish and no one else will, please take the fish back to the store, or give them away to someone who can. Then buy her one of those fake fish in a tank that swims around when you plug it into an electrical outlet. It's fun to watch. My mom used to have one of those. No cleaning needed.
charlen74 Jul 2021
Thank you for this helpful answer. I like the idea of the electric fish.
Countrymouse Jul 2021
If you're in the UK, call the RSPCA and ask them to send someone round to have a firm word with her. She could be prosecuted for cruelty. No, really, she could.
charlen74 Jul 2021
Thank you for this suggestion. I will bear this in mind.
NeedHelpWithMom Jul 2021
There is a ‘Gardening as therapy’ thread on this forum. I suggest that you ask your question about your mom’s pond there. Good luck finding a suitable response.
charlen74 Jul 2021
Thank you for your response. I will check this out.

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