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SavingMom2014 Asked July 2021

Grandmother repeats herself multiple times in a 20 minute conversation and then says sorry if I’m repeating myself. Is this a concern?

Should she go to the doctor? Or is this common for someone in their mid 80s?


I worry because she has adult kids who are constantly asking for huge monetary gifts and she always gives whatever they ask for. They play the poor me, have sympathy for me and can I “borrow “ $$$$$$. Then they say write GIFT ON THE CHECK?


Not sure why this even matters tho,

MJ1929 Jul 2021
Grandma has the beginnings of memory loss, and she's being taken advantage of by the money-grubbers. Someone needs to have power of attorney (POA) for her medical and financial decisions before she's too far gone to grant it. It sounds like it should be you, since you're not taking money from her.

The first step to get her affairs in order with power of attorney is to see an elder care or trust and estate attorney.

GardenArtist Jul 2021
It matters as well b/c there are limits to gifting, and the IRS could become involved.

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cxmoody Jul 2021
It could DEFINITELY matter, if your grandma would someday need Medicaid.

Does anyone have POA?

Has grandma been evaluated for dementia?

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