It's different for everyone. "Seeing" your parents means nothing, especially if someone has dementia.
Some people just kind of slowly wind down over the course of a few days or weeks, and eventually become unconscious. They may stop eating and drinking, they might start turning inward and not paying attention to what others are saying, and they may decline to see visitors or talk to anyone anymore. Their breathing and their heart rate slow, and eventually everything stops and they slip away. That's probably what most people are saying when they write that their loved one "died in their sleep."
You could get your mom signed up for hospice care, so you'll have support when she starts to transition. Medicare pays for it, and you'll have the support of a nurse, chaplain, and social worker whenever you need them. Ask your mom's doctor about a hospice referral.
Ummmm..... What is your real question? What are you looking for? I am sure you did not mean for your question, the way you worded it, to be offensive to those who have lost their parents. Maybe you are one of the "cool" and popular caregivers and I am being overly sensitive. Or are you seeking something sensational??
The entire forum has been sadly, writing about caregiving and the loss of their parents. There is much to read. But you want "tales"?
Definition of tale: 1 a : a usually imaginative narrative of an event : STORY b : an intentionally untrue report : FALSEHOOD always preferred the tale to the truth — Sir Winston Churchill 2 a : a series of events or facts told or presented : ACCOUNT b (1) : a report of a private or confidential matter dead men tell no tales (2) : a libelous report or piece of gossip
The truth is sensational enough. You would have had to have been there, or seen it on fb. My loved one passed while my sister (long-distance caregiver) was doing the talking to the dead, having a seance-type ritual and filming it, sharing it on ZOOM from technology in his room.
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Some people just kind of slowly wind down over the course of a few days or weeks, and eventually become unconscious. They may stop eating and drinking, they might start turning inward and not paying attention to what others are saying, and they may decline to see visitors or talk to anyone anymore. Their breathing and their heart rate slow, and eventually everything stops and they slip away. That's probably what most people are saying when they write that their loved one "died in their sleep."
You could get your mom signed up for hospice care, so you'll have support when she starts to transition. Medicare pays for it, and you'll have the support of a nurse, chaplain, and social worker whenever you need them. Ask your mom's doctor about a hospice referral.
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What is your real question? What are you looking for?
I am sure you did not mean for your question, the way you worded it, to be offensive to those who have lost their parents. Maybe you are one of the "cool" and popular caregivers and I am being overly sensitive. Or are you seeking something sensational??
The entire forum has been sadly, writing about caregiving and the loss of their parents. There is much to read. But you want "tales"?
Definition of tale:
1
a
: a usually imaginative narrative of an event : STORY
b
: an intentionally untrue report : FALSEHOOD
always preferred the tale to the truth
— Sir Winston Churchill
2
a
: a series of events or facts told or presented : ACCOUNT
b
(1)
: a report of a private or confidential matter
dead men tell no tales
(2)
: a libelous report or piece of gossip
The truth is sensational enough. You would have had to have been there, or seen it on fb.
My loved one passed while my sister (long-distance caregiver) was doing the talking to the dead, having a seance-type ritual and filming it, sharing it on ZOOM from technology in his room.
I will never forgive her.