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Katglos1 Asked August 2019

Two weeks before the death of my blind father he met a care giver. In two weeks she had purchased a home with my father's money in her name

My father was blind and needed around the clock help. This women claimed that the purchase was mutual . Yet he had only met her two weeks prior and days after they met this caregiver packed him up and took him to South Carolina where the house was purchased. This woman planned this journey and knowingly took advantage of a newly blind aging desperate disabled man who was simply in fear for his life He died shortly after the purchase of the house . She sued his family to keep the house then She sold the house immediately a She knew he was vulnerable and did it for her own financial gain! The family did not find out til after the fact and was extremely upset one member posted some truths of her in regards to her abusing and taking advantage of a rich broken blind man. Now she is trying to sue for slander and defamation? Can someone please help?

Isthisrealyreal Aug 2019
I think that there are a lot of assumptions about how long it takes to actually buy a house.

My husband and I bought our home in 21 days, we saw it, made an offer, found financing and moved in 21 days later, 2 hours after the sellers moved out, just long enough to have the house cleaned.

This time would have been greatly reduced if we had cash.

Obviously there are holes in how all of this went down, but if this "caregiver" was looking for a victim the odds of the house seller being involved are good. Waiving home inspections and appraisal can cut a week or more from the process.

Hopefully the original poster will take a deep breath and answer some questions.
Shell38314 Aug 2019
You have some really good points!
GloriaHoward Aug 2019
Assuming this is all factual... You can buy a house in ten days if you are a cash buyer. Mortgages take longer and usually 30 days to close. Selling is another matter, as you have to have all the inspections, locate a realtor and title search and then of course, a buyer, again with cash, to make such a quick sale. Or did they sell to a friend / relative to get the title out of their name? So I wonder about the timing of the incidents.
Second, how did the care giver get the money for the property? Check? Wire? There is a paper trail. How was this done? Online? If so, did he know how to operate the net or what? If he were blind, I doubt he could perform a wire transfer. If he couldn't, who helped him? Was it in person at a bank? Banker would have to speak to the owner of the account and give permission and then send/authorize the wire. Or if it were a written paper check for someone legally blind? Who signed it? Who wrote it out?
Why did she, care taker, sue the family if she had fraudulently gained the property? Where was a lawyer for that? Also, you can't sue someone and sell the item in question at the same time... No. And yet it's claimed the family just found out? AFTER all this other allegations? As for her suing... Unless she won the house in a court of law, and it was legally declared hers, then slander may be the next round. But if it's not, you can't win that kind of lawsuit based on truth exposed.
So, what do we have here? Is it a legit question/actions? Sounds like some fancy legal footsteps are needed if this is a legit deal, but this doesn't sound like all the details are here or sequence is way off. Poster, please clarify.

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lealonnie1 Aug 2019
Ahmijoy....,speaking of trial runs for screenplays or scripts for tv shows, I was recently contacted (via private message) by a producer from a N.Y. production company. She is developing a podcast episode about how we navigate the question of how to communicate and sometimes need to lie to loved ones with dementia. She saw one of my comments about an incident with my mother and her wild escapades and wanted to interview me by phone for my input on the subject. I called her and she taped the interview which lasted about 40 minutes. There are lots of lurkers to this site and people gathering info for books and things. Maybe the OP is writing a novel or something.....lol

lealonnie1 Aug 2019
Just wondering, how is a blind, desperate & disabled man who needs help around the clock not tended to in any way by his own family? Was he ignored to the point where some chick comes along, buys a house with HIS money which she would have to have access to, packs him up, moves him to a different state, still without ANY of his family's knowledge, and then he proceeds to die soon afterward? Again, WHERE was this man's family while all this was happening?

Katiekate Aug 2019
This entire thing is fishy. I think this post is just a bunch of hooey.

first...no way caregiver and Dad did a purchase in two weeks...and then to claim it was then sold immediately?
That is just bunk! No way 2 closings happen that fast.

whatever the real story might be ... it isn’t being told here
mstrbill Aug 2019
agreed
Demma69 Aug 2019
Wow!!! If it was me I would start with calling the police and making a report about identity fraud. I would research on line help through medicate or Medicate.
That has to be the craziest thing I have ever heard of.
If she wasn’t power of attorney there is no way to make purchases like that.
Call the bank or company that gave her the money and go crazy and fight them for authorization without proper consent. What identification did she peruse.
There are many lawyers out there for the elderly that will fight and get paid only if they win.
im so very sorry that happened to you. Get her arrested.
Prayers to you. Just terrible!!!!!!!

anonymous912123 Aug 2019
Something unusual here, first you post that this site is a fraud and a scam, then you post this, honestly, to close a piece in property in less than 2 weeks is a real stretch. Title searches take longer than that. Is there more to this story?
anonymous896861 Aug 2019
“She sued his family to keep the house” makes no sense either. Why would the caregiver need to sue anybody if she purchased the home in her name only?

I’m not sure what’s going on so hopefully the original poster will reply with more info so that members here can offer advice.
Geaton777 Aug 2019
My cousin was PoA for her elderly half-brother (bedridden from a stroke, been divorced many years, single and no one was close to him except my cousin). He was in Ft. Lauderdale and she was about 45min away. Against my advice she hired a private caretaker and just gushed about her but wasn't keeping one eye on any financial activity. This caretaker got him to change his will and sign everything over to her. She was a predator and knew exactly what she was doing. I'm sorry for your family's problems now but you definitely should have investigated it immediately and never publicized allegations against her until she was actually proven guilty of something. She may now have a legal case against you. I would encourage you to take her to court as she will just victimize others if people don't go after her every time she attempts her scam. Ugh...she is disgusting and must not have a soul.

anonymous828521 Aug 2019
Gosh, I'm so sorry for what happended to your dad. Not sure what you can do about it. (God will judge that evil she did to your dad, even if she never gets punished in this life). Hope you recover some of the money though. Good luck💟.

AlvaDeer Aug 2019
Katglos, I am first of all very curious about your previous post here? Link is above. Can you explain it at all?
Nextly, the time to press charges for elder fraud is right away, when it happens. There are no details here to help us. We can't know if this gentleman was demented or not. Cannot know if it was not, indeed his intention to go on a wonderful road trip at the end of his life, and to buy this woman a home. And apparently the family were not close enough to even understand any of this was happening at the time. The trip. The purchase. The subsequent sale. It was all discovered long after the fact?
I am certain there must be more details somewhere?
My first move on my part in a situation such as this would be an investigation of this person by "Private Eye"; they can do amazing work online, and quite easily. There may be a history here. This all sounds like it would make a movie.
We do need to be very very careful of what we put into writing, or even what we accuse people of verbally. We do leave ourselves open to suit. A friend of mine recently won 100,000 from the insurance company of a madwoman who slandered him on a facebook post.
I surely don't have the answer here, other than to get a lawyer. I am afraid it is here for us as a warning for our futures. I hope you will update us with more details on this.
notrydoyoda Aug 2019
the link no longer works
Sendhelp Aug 2019
An escrow takes 30 days usually.
AlvaDeer Aug 2019
Yes. Seems like a quick purchase, quick resale here. Something seems odd.
gladimhere Aug 2019
She found a lawyer to sue for slander and defamation? Very unusual. In this area attorneys will not represent a client for this unless there is tons of money involved like in major corporations.

Was dad of sound mind? Maybe this person has a history of doing such things? Have you contacted the district attorney? If there is a history, you may not need to retain an attorney. The DA, I would think, would be very happy to go after this. So many resources at their disposal.
NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2019
So interesting, huh? Good answer...
freqflyer Aug 2019
Katglos1, did your Dad have a financial Power of Attorney? Or a Power of Attorney in general?

Ahmijoy Aug 2019
Get a lawyer. That’s the only way you’ll get help. Good luck. Wow. What an awful person she was. Didn’t anyone know what she was doing?
AlvaDeer Aug 2019
But how can we know the circumstances? As I read it the family wasn't much involved, at least could not have been appointed POAs at all, didn't find out until the house was sold or the Dad died? I don't know. Some families......I am just saying, if I am left blind and old and alone, I might go on a road trip myself! I am hoping we get more information. This almost sounds like a novel to me, Ahmijoy! I may research it for one!

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