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Avalon Asked April 2019

In support group a friend's husband follows her everywhere. Is there a way to get her husband to stop?

When she stands up, he stands up. He moves from room to room as she does. It is beginning to affect her ability to handle his care. It's basically driving her nuts. Is there a way to address this, to get her husband to stop?

OldSailor Apr 2019
I have heard of this by men after prostate surgery. I wonder if something is going on down there? won't hurt to consult with a urologist.

pamzimmrrt Apr 2019
Can another person in the group redirect him?
Avalon Apr 2019
There is no group. This shadowing and following occur when at home. It's constant.

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faeriefiles Apr 2019
We call it shadowing when he's following me around and vulturing (when he doesn't just follow me but then stands over me, not saying anything and not answering me if I speak to him). I know it shouldn't bother me, there's really no harm in it but it still drives me a bit nutz now and then. I try to redirect him to a seat to sit in or to an activity he can do like taking clothes out of the dryer or stacking books from one table to another. Putting his snacks from a big bag to a bunch of small bags etc... Any type of distraction seems to help de-fuse his obsession with me. Good luck. Patience, humor and self talk is what gets me through.

PandabearAUS Apr 2019
Sounds like Alzheimers to me. My mother used to do it to my father
Avalon Apr 2019
Yes he does have Alzheimers. Just trying to find away to stop this shadowing behavior.

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