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Tomew2000 Asked December 2018

I serve as POA for my closest friend of 40 yrs. His kids pay no attention and the rest of his family has walked away. Why do I feel guilty?

He suffered an AVN in 2008. His second wife got away with all his money, and he’s broke except for his disability. This leaves me trying to make ends meet for him.


I notice I’m having an increasingly hard time dealing with the guilt that I can’t do more.


Anyone else dealing with those feelings or similar? Sounds clear that I shouldn’t feel that way, but I do.


 

JoAnn29 Dec 2018
Could you fill out a profile. It will help with you not repeating when you post. Helps us too.😊

How old is your friend? Is he on SS disability. If so, he has Medicare and Medicaid so no problem there. Like said, he can get food stamps. There is subsidized for those over 55/62 and older. Help with utilities. There are food banks. United Way has government food once a month. Like suggested, call your Office of Aging to see what info they have.

Ahmijoy Dec 2018
Call your local Area Agency on Aging to see if there is any help available for this man. You should not have to be supporting him as well as yourself. Your charity is commendable, but at some point you will need money for your own use. You can file for Medicaid for him, food stamps, SSI, etc. You are a good person to be caring for him and care so much about him.

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Grandma1954 Dec 2018
You are doing the best you can with what you have.
There are resources that you can check into to determine if he qualifies for more help.
Is he a Veteran? If so contact a Veterans Commission office or the VA to determine if he is eligible for help and how much.
Have you checked with Senior Services to see if he qualifies for help.

You have to remember "we" can't do it all, we can't make everything alright. We can only do as much as we can. So if at the end of the day you feel that you have done all you could that is all anyone can ask of you.

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