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seahorsee Asked November 2017

I am accused by 2 sisters of stealing 10 thousand dollars from my elderly father. I gave them all of the banks records. How can I clear my name?

I ask for proof of this theft and I get nothing. I want to clear my good name. I love my father. I moved to Florida to take care of him in 2004. Can I get an audit done?
How can I clear my name?

seahorsee Nov 2017
there is no evidence. I gave them access to my accounts and my fathers to prove this. they did not find anything so now sis says I admitted to it which I did not. I want to put the issue to rest and hire a third party to handle his affairs.

STP Nov 2017
What kind of other evidence your sisters has? Because you said your sisters knew your Dad's bank record?

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seahorsee Nov 2017
it is good to have people listen and share. its isolating having family against you. thank you for your comments

GardenArtist Nov 2017
Is this right? You live in Florida, your father lives with you, the sisters have in mind someplace up north to place your father? Where do the sisters live? Up north, or in Florida?

With the kind of harassment you're getting, I would go for the nuclear option. See an attorney, discuss their accusations and intimidation attempts, and ask the attorney to send them a cease and desist letter, indicating that any reports or claims they make to others about financial mismanagement could be considered libel or slander.

That might stop them.

gladimhere Nov 2017
You may want to consider getting a geriatric care manager involved. That person would be able to protect dad and you too. Maybe even get sisters to leave it alone. Then if something should blow up in the future you have the GCM to back you and dad up.

seahorsee Nov 2017
he has agreed to change poa. he also told sis he will not move. I am worried that they are going to badger him until he relents. one sis is visiting and is known to badger him in the past. he hates conflict

gladimhere Nov 2017
He can change the POA anytime he likes. He should talk to his attorney for advice on how to assure this does not happen again. He and you are going to need to get thick skin and tell sissies to leave it alone.

seahorsee Nov 2017
I believe she is repeatedly telling him to do things her way. he got in my car the other day and said I don't want to go up north. this is when I confronted sis and she made the steeling accusation

gladimhere Nov 2017
Are you his POA? You could hire an accountant to take care of dad's more key, but it gets expensive. Tell sissies that if they want an audit, what the cost will be, and that they must pay it if it is to be done. If you are POA it is none of their business, per normal terms in a POA.

Changing to sissies, is that what dad wanted or was he coerced?

seahorsee Nov 2017
my dad has good and bad days. my sister took dad to his lawyer and changed the power of attorney end of life to her and the sister.

seahorsee Nov 2017
would having a third party appointed be an option so there are no further problems?

gladimhere Nov 2017
What matters is what your dad wants, not what sisters want. Is dad competent? Are you his POA?

gladimhere Nov 2017
Accused? By sisters or have you actually been charged with something? If just sisters, many siblings do this sort of thing, I know.my twisted sisters reported me to APS for financial exploitation. One of them knew nothing of the sort was occurring. Sibs can get downright brutal and vindictive. How did I deal? Detach. Now have nothing to do with the lying, conniving, b""""es

seahorsee Nov 2017
they have not filed charges. they are trying to put my dad in a home up north

BarbBrooklyn Nov 2017
Are they just making this claim to you or have they called APS or the cops?

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