Where to find help getting mom to take meds and to take a shower?

Spill the gravy in her lap. Chatter apologetically while you shuffle her to the bathroom to clean up, using the handheld shower and whoops you get more of her wet including her hair and get her in the tub to rinse off that gravy and the next thing you know she is completely soaked while you are still apologizing and she is peeling off the wet clothes and notice gravy in her hair and grab the shampoo to wash it out. Now there is shampoo on her clothes and what the heck you may as well wash the whole body. Be sneaky.

Thanks pamstegma! I'll have to try that. Any suggestions on how to encourage showers when she doesn't remember what happened the day before?

When my MIL started to refuse some medications, I said "OK, let's throw them ALL away. Don't take ANY meds. It will all be over in 48 hours. Is that what you want?" She relented.