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Needhelpasap411 Asked March 2016

My fiance's grandparents are being abused by their son's girlfriend. Need help!

My fiances grandparents really need help. They took in her son and girlfriend and the girlfriend is bipolar. She is so abusive to the both grandparents. Grandmas son has told his girlfriend to move and she wont both grandparents have also. She's so mean to them both. The grandma has fallen many times had black eyes. Been to the hospital I can't even count any more. She is in a nursing home now and not sure but I think she doesn't want to come home due to this women. She has finally started talking about her wanting this women out of her house. Grandpa is still here and she is trying to get him out of his home that he has lived in for over 40 years now. He is scared and doesn't know where to turn. I have been around and around with her so has my fiance. She looks for ways to scare you like making up lies to try and get you in to trouble. But after they hear what was going on they realize it was a lie. But what can we do to about this situation

pfontes16 Mar 2016
Anybody contacted the police? Maybe a protection from abuse restraining order will get her out and away faster than an eviction process.

cwillie Mar 2016
LOL Jude, I like your style!
I'm not sure what is going on between this woman and the son, are they still a couple? Why did he ever think this was a good idea, is she off her meds and was she a different person when she is properly treated?
I think it would be worth it to pool your resources and put together first and last month's rent and find a place for this woman. Then do what Jude said, change the locks and hand her the keys to her new home.
And do not under any circumstances allow her to cross the threshold again... a restraining order could be necessary to keep her away from you grandparents.

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BarbBrooklyn Mar 2016
I recently read that there are companies that you can hire to manage evictions. Let them be the messenger.

PhoenixDaughter Mar 2016
Wow I would wait till she went out and change the locks!

GardenArtist Mar 2016
Why in the world hasn't someone contacted APS to protect the grandparents?

As to whether or not eviction is required, it may depend on whether or not she's changed her mailing address to the grandparents' residence. Doing so and filing a change of address with the Michigan Secretary of State is how it's handled here. Once that address change is made, the person is considered to be residing at the new address, and must be evicted.

There may be a statutory requirement for "permanent" address changes, and it probably varies by state.

jeannegibbs Mar 2016
Go through the formal eviction process. First look up what that process is where the house is. Then do every step. Give notice. If she doesn't leave and you have followed all the steps, a sheriff will show up on the move-out date and force her out. In many municipalities it doesn't matter whether she has been paying rent. You must go through the eviction process.

Poor girlfriend. Bipolar disorder is a very difficult burden to manage. She must have some wonderful qualities as well, for boyfriend to be in love with her. She needs medical help and I hope her boyfriend can encourage that. But meanwhile she has no business terrorizing the grandparents.

If grandfather wants her out of his house, help him make that happen.

pamstegma Mar 2016
Your fiancé, not you, and the son need to get up off the couch and have the abuser evicted. Don't get sucked into being the messenger. They always kill the messenger.

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