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debijur Asked October 2015

My father-in-law needs help with bathing, cleaning his bedroom, and etc. Any advice?

My father-in-law (98) lives with us and has for the last 23 yrs.

sherry1anne Dec 2016
You can get help if he has doctor's orders. My mother got it. It's not long term, but anything is better than nothing.

WalkintubGuy10 Oct 2015
As far as a safe bathing experience, a walk in tub is helpful. Please check out walkintubsreview.org to get more information on walk in tubs.

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97yroldmom Oct 2015
If you call a home health agency they can walk you through the necessary steps in your area. Usually they will request you ask the Primary dr to send a prescription to them but some will actually contact the dr for you. The nurse will come once a week to set up his meds. An aid can come up to 3 times a week to bath him, change his sheets, start his laundry even prepare a simple meal. They can also clean his room if that is what he needs help with. They will explain their services. The nurse can keep his meds ordered for you and keep a record of his bp, pulse, oxygen, bowel movements etc. You may have to try a few services before you find one you like working with. Ask friends and relatives which company they use. It's a great resource. You will need to keep an eye on them. Sometimes they have a problem keeping RNs but overall worth the effort.

Llamalover47 Oct 2015
Terry512: Yes, while they generally don't get dirty enough to get a daily bath, it is necessary and hygenic to clean their necessary parts, especially assuming they are diapered at age 98. Sorry, I am just being factual and it is never my intention to hurt anyone's feelings.

Tford1 Oct 2015
If this is Florida, there is a long term care benefit through the state Medicaid program that covers all of this, unfortunately a waiting list

Terry512 Oct 2015
A person 98+ doesn't usually get dirty enough to require a daily bath and sometimes, a daily bath dries out their skin too much. My father lived with me for the last 9 years of his life and he went downhill quickly after the age of 75. My brother has to come over and sit him in a plastic chair and bathe him for the remainder of his time. I was tired all the time and if I had had the money, I would have hired a CNA or someone to help with things at least 3 or 4 times a week. Taking care of elderly parents is a commitment we must make so don't feel bad if you need to hire someone else to bathe him, feed him or dress him. They can also clean his room and vacuum/dust enough for him. Check his medicare, insurance, Medicaid if he has it and elder care in your city. I think there are several options for you and gook luck in your search.

Llamalover47 Oct 2015
Sure-home health aides.

sherry1anne Oct 2015
Is he a veteran? He could apply for aid and assistance if he qualifies. I found a great lady to help us on care site. There are helpers from minimum wage all the way up to registered nurses.

Gloriacoco Oct 2015
You or someone in your family needs to contact the Aging and Disability Agency for your fathers are or your home area. Based on his needs he may qualify for provider care service free of charge. When a person can no longer care for themselves then these agencies need to be contacted. They will asks a series of question pertaining to your father in law capabilities (can he bath himself, can he cook for himself, can he dress himself etc) but it looks like he can no longer do for himself. You will also be asked about his financial status. This also has alot to do with him qualifying for assistance. Good luck with you father in law. Hope this helps.

pamzimmrrt Oct 2015
My FIL has hired a bath aid for about $20 an hour for my MIL. The local DOA helped him find the service. He has to pay himself, but it;s worth it.

askcherylc Oct 2015
Check out a local in home care company. Interview several and ask about the number of hours per day and day per week the company may require. There is a difference between in home care and in home medical care. You do not need in home medical for bathing and dressing, cleaning etc. Check with his insurance to see if they will help pay.

susansuno Oct 2015
Medicare will pay if he meets the qualifications,a doctor has to order it.I take care of elderly man 24/7 He was being bathed 2 x a week through agency paid for by Medicare.Bed baths in between.good luck

vlau88 Oct 2015
A walk-in bathtubs would be the solutions, visit: walkintubsreview.org to get more information

charlie97 Oct 2015
I have aids for both my parents, who come in a few times a week to bathe them. My mother has one through hospice, my father through his Medicaid plan. See if your father in law's health plan covers home care, if not see what's available that he or you can afford. It's been a Godsend to me.

ferris1 Oct 2015
Either do the work yourselves or ask the doctor to order ADLs professional services. Medicare will pay as long as it is necessary for him.

quailmom Oct 2015
If he or his spouse is/was a vet, the VA may be able to help. Check with your local office.

brit38 Oct 2015
I think Medicare pays for some in home help, check with his Dr

ramiller Oct 2015
If you call your Area Agency on Aging they can point you in the right direction. A bath aid would be great if you feel he would be embarrased by having you help him. Also it takes some stress off you. If he has the finances hiring a private caregiver is wonderful, you will have same person everytime so they can develope a relationship and routine. I recommend care site for hiring a private caregiver. I worked for people i met on that site.

sondraO Oct 2015
Check into getting a home health nurse to come bathe him about 3 times a week. That is what they did for my father. There was no charge for it. I think your first place to start would be with a social worker. If you can't find one, call your local hospital.

freqflyer Oct 2015
Debijur, could your father afford to hire a paid caregiver for 3 or 4 hours a day to help him with these items? That would give you relief to do things for yourself.

I have paid caregivers 3 shifts a day for my Dad who is in his 90's and still lives under his own roof. These young professional gals/guys are doing a fantastic job, and Dad says he feels like a King :)

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