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Slappers Asked June 2015

My Mother has early stages of Alzheimer's and every time I see her she is crying. How can I help her?

She has no other health problems. As explained my Mother is crying every time I see her. I try to tell her she is blessed to be able to wake up, walk and have a family to take care of her. I get very upset when I see her like this. Should I tell her about her blessing of being in good physical health and be grateful she is alive everyday, and try to tell her that her crying all the time upsets me?

Nora789 Jun 2015
Sharadale is correct. Alzheimer's/dementia is a progressive terminal disease. Your mother is not well. The only thing that helps my mom who has this terrible disease is to tell her that the way she feels is ok that a lot of people are going through the very same thing and that she is safe. We have not found a medication that helps, but then we don't have good doctors. We tried a couple of anti depressants with terrible results. My mom is sad sad sad.....and we can't help much. We just keep loving her and try to learn as much as we can about this terrible disease. Saying the right things is very very important.

Sharadale Jun 2015
First don't tell her she is lucky or blessed. She is not in good physical health. You need to become educated about what Alzheimer's truly entails. When I first heard about Alzheimer's I thought that it was a memory and psychological mood disorder that made people prone to bizarre paranoid behaviors. I had no idea that it attacked the organs in your body. Please get educated and then join a support group that can help you and your mother. You have a long hard road ahead of you unless they come up with a cure soon. My uncle was a multimillionaire and he could not find a cure because there was none. He passed away last year and it was a blessing on him and his wife and family. He was able to get the best care at home because he had the resources, but most people with Alzheimer's spend their last years in a long term nursing home.

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Sunnygirl1 Jun 2015
Yes, have her evaluated for some medical or psychological reason she is unhappy. It could be a number of things causing it. Rarely, will telling someone to stop being miserable make them feel better. It's not that simple. She could have a disorder that is causing it. There are treatments for this. Don't take it personally. Just try to get her evaluated and properly treated.

cwillie Jun 2015
There are medications that can help her, don't be reluctant to try antidepressants. Too often we are afraid of over-medicating our elders, yet her life now is one of misery and despair. Find a doctor who can help her feel better and give you your mom back.

BarbBrooklyn Jun 2015
Please have her seen by a geriatric psychiatrist.

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