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queen60 Asked July 2013

Sibling has POA without my knowledge. What can I do?

My mother is in the beginning stages of Dementia and it has come to my attention that my brother has POA. Obviously she had to have signed something and I assume she had no idea what she was signing. She has called me several times quite upset because she was told by my sister in law that she is no longer to open her mail. Furthermore, my brother recently removed all of my deceased father's legal paperwork form her safe and took them all home. Because of her confusion, one day she is ok with this and and the next she is extremely upset and calls me crying feeling that she is no longer allowed to do anything and make her own decisions. I feel that the could be something fishy going on here and since I do not share any POA with him, I have no way of knowing if they are doing something unethical with her and my dad's money. Any suggestions?

Whitney Jul 2013
Yes indeed, this does raise a red flag. There are many types of POA's and some of them can allow the POA to change a beneficiary, (depending on the state). It may be advisable to get a copy of the POA that your mother signed and take it to an attorney, and ask him to review it. It sounds as if there could be something fishy going on. Has your brother been involved with caregiving, helping out, etc. in prior years, or is he just now coming out of the woodwork when the inheritance is involved? Let's hope for everyone's sake, he is genuinely concerned. Good Luck

vw9729 Jul 2013
I strongly suggest you contact an elder lawyer as soon as possible. A POA can be revoked at any time, but with your mom having the beginning stages of Dementia - I suggest someone have POA for both financial and medical. If your mom doesn't want your brother to have it - she can delegate it to someone else. Good luck!!

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