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tigersmine Asked May 2012

Can I sue my sister for holding up moms guardianship proceedings by ignoring all correspondence?

I applied for guardianship of our mom and at the hearing my sister wanted to have joint guardianship, which started a fight she lives in Fla I live in the same town as mom. We decided to have her be dads and me be moms, I wasn't happy but my lawyer said we can try to change it later, only because mom had to be placed. There was a stipulation that she had her lawyer draw up, that needed to be signed to have the judge sign the guardianship papers for me. In the mean time my sister prevented me from moving my dad and mom to a joined facility to be together and to get dad closer to us (he was 21/4 hours away)this new place would have been 20min. away. My sister is ignoring all calls(she changed her #'s) won't answer letters and when our father died I had to get her signature for permission to cremate him, she only would speak through her daughter to me. Mom is being miss treated in the facility she is in my hands are tied I can't move her without a guardianship paper, my sister knows mom isn't getting the best care but doesn't know the full details. It has been almost a year since this all started and my lawyer is NO help at all, any advice for me to get her to tell the court she wants nothing to do with mom. I have a post card from her she sent me after we went to court where she said I would regret doing this to her (not having joint guardianship) and that she didn't want to know if mom got sick or when she died. Mom never did anything to hurt her ever she is the sweetest person around always was, and still is. I don't know why my sister is doing this. Please help

195Austin May 2012
These issue need to be addressed as soon as the kids are aduts well before the parents get frail.

desert192 May 2012
Who has POA - if no one, then apply for gaurdianship again. I would take postcard to court that shows sister wants nothing to do with Mom. Contact Social Services, Council on Aging, etc. in your state and hers as well. If they can't contact her, make that point in court as well. An elder care attorney should be able to raise elder abandonment issues since sis is "missing in action".
Just a note to all - this is why you must get durable POA, Health care POA, Advance directive, and trust and/or will done before need arises.

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195Austin May 2012
Can you change lawyers and call the Board of Health of the state she is in to get things going. Are you sure your mother is nice to your sister my Mom can be the sweetest to others and a beast to me as well as my late husband could turn it on and off -even on his deathbed.

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