I was on this site a lot in 2009 and found it to be very helpful. I work as a caregiver for a couple, and I have a problem. There are 4 round the clock caregivers in this case. Primarily for the wife who is 89 and in poor shape. The husband is 93 and in remarkable shape, however, he INSISTS on taking his wife to dinner-where he then drinks and then drives. We have discussed this OVER and OVER with both the family and the home health agency. The family in in complete denial that there is a problem and the agency isn't much better. We can refuse to ride with them (taking our own car) but we feel that if something bad happens we will still be held responsible. We are there to care for the WIFE, not to put up with this nonsense. When we tell him our opinion he tells us "not to argue with him" He will NOT give up the car keys and insists on driving home. It's close by but that is absolutely no excuse. It infuriates me to the point if I know they are going to dinner on my shift I call in sick. Any suggestions on how to handle this mess? I actually like the case despite this. It happens about once a month and it's terrifying-I'm at my wits end because no one will tell him to stop.