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Sadiesue23,
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! We brought my dad into our home in November. It has totally changed our lives too. Our cat died in December. We think it could have been kidney issues, but we are unsure. Recently, my dad stepped on our German Shepherd mix that is 14 years old. It's not hard to see her. She already has arthritis. My dad scared her a lot by slapping his leg. Not sure why that is. My husband and I are having issues too. Our marriage wasn't the best when we decided to bring him here. I kept asking God for help with everything. My dad is up already. He has been up since probably about 2:30 this morning. The sleep supplements and medicine don't seem to work at all! I too feel like I am doing everything! Info all the clean you, showers, washing, most of the cleaning. It's a lot! I'm not sure what the answer is. My husband is also hard to talk to. Guess it depends on if you love him enough to stay with it. Do you have another place to stay? I currently don't have a really good paying job so I'm here for now. I don't want to lose our dog either. Hopefully on Sept 30th, my dad can move into a memory care home if everything goes smoothly!

I wish you all the best for you and your family! This is so difficult for everyone!

🙏🙏🙏❤️🙏🙏🙏
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Love these answers. Be firm. Stand up for yourself and entire family. Even when husband objects (which he probably will), you say (as long as it is true) either his mother goes or you go AND it is very easy to "fix" but mom has to no longer live with you. We can love people and no be able to live with them and their behaviors. Get mom out even if to AL and repair your marriage. You may find your husband thanks you for it.
AND regardless - set up son and mom time and son and father time - no excuses, DO IT!
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Just want to say, the OP has not responded to any replies and there are 32 answers.
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Jacquelinezr Sep 9, 2024
She may have just needed to vent. Or maybe she was overwhelmed with all of the suggestions. Or maybe she didn't like what she was reading. So many possibilities. I do hope she listens to some of the great advice on here so she can rescue her family.
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Often, people come here once, to vent their frustrations and we never hear from them again.
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Think about the irreversible damage she caused your family and move her back to her home. No guilt or obligation is worth the damage to your son.
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I ended up reading this as I'm in the same ish situation maybe I'll start my own post. I'm actually in the UK my wife mother as been with us for 3 years. I wasn't asked it was assumed she would come to us. Prior to this she was staying with her other daughter (alot older than my wife) whose retired and wealthy. In this mix we have two sons aged 8 and 10. I suffer with mild depression and anxiety but take meds and hold down a job, I pay majority of house bills. This NY my anxiety as flared terribly my wife and I get no alone time in our living room as MIL is permanently rooted to the chair in front of the TV. Her health isn't great and obviously is declining as she gets older. She still owns her own home but hasn't been there for 5 years. I'm am at breaking point I don't feel happy in my own home for which I have worked so hard for. I'm even at the point of thinking separation and finding a home for me and my boys. I have kinda of mentioned it to my wife but she can be hard to discuss such things with without it flaring into an argument where I'm the one with the problem. I have read so many posts of people stuck in these situations kinda reassuring I'm not alone but need to get a solution. Thank you for letting me vent like I said maybe I should start my own post.
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MargaretMcKen Jan 14, 2025
yes, please start your own thread. No situation is identical, and it's not 'polite' to hijack someone else's detailed question. Even if it's more or less died, like this one, the original question misleads people who should be answering you.

PS perhaps you and the boys could move into MIL's house, if it's empty?
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