Did the hospital know that you were not set up for Mom? Since you weren't, why did you not go to her home and stay with you there? Did Social Services at the hospital help you with ordering a hospital bed?
Sounds to me you may have only 1 bedroom. If so, how are you going to be able to have Mom stay. Really, we need more info.
How could you not be prepared to have all the equipment that you need in place to care for her BEFORE you brought her to your home. Is this going to be a permanent "solution"? If so are you prepared for everything else? Is your husband on board with her moving in (if she had not lived there before)?
Honestly I would not want anyone else sleeping in my bed either.
I don't blame him, why aren't you sleeping in your own bed as well? Don't know the details but it would appear that you are not equipped to care for her and your husband is not happy about all of this either.
The idea of anyone besides my husband or children sleeping in my bed makes my skin crawl. I’m with your husband on this one. Why didn’t she go back to her own home? If you home was not equipped to handle her why did you bring her there?
Why did you bring your mom to your home from the hospital and not her own? And why is she needing care? And are you planning on keeping your mom in your home till she dies, or is this just temporary? And why did you bring your mom home if you didn't have a place for her to sleep? And why would you expect your husband or yourself to give up your bed for your mom? These are all questions that we would need answered before we could possibly give you any decent answers here, but it sounds like you perhaps have made a mistake by allowing your mom to come home with you huh? Hopefully it's not too late to make other plans for her care.
Obviously your husband is not happy about Mom living with you . Is this supposed to be very temporary or permanent ? Was this thoroughly discussed between you and your husband ?
Your marriage comes first which may possibly mean Mom going to rehab and then a permanent solution like assisted living if Mom has the funds , or her house can be sold to pay for her care in assisted living .
Hi my nightmare, I would love more information, here.
Are you planning on having mom live with you, from now on? Hubs ma not be happy about this situation. How much of your life taking care of mom has taken over your life? Does, your husband have to work in the morning? Do you?
What was your mom hospitalized for and her health issues.
It’s sounds like a nightmare. My mother would have me on the streets if it meant spending every last dollar of ours on her. I had to choose, my marriage or her. I chose wisely…my marriage. She forgets she told me to divorce him two years ago because he said she was non-compliant with her medications. She got pissed and didn’t speak to us for two years after storming out on Thanksgiving. These narcissists are something else!
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Sounds to me you may have only 1 bedroom. If so, how are you going to be able to have Mom stay. Really, we need more info.
hopefully today's the day you get the bed all setup.
Good luck.
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Or the writer & the Mother?
Is this going to be a permanent "solution"?
If so are you prepared for everything else?
Is your husband on board with her moving in (if she had not lived there before)?
Honestly I would not want anyone else sleeping in my bed either.
These are all questions that we would need answered before we could possibly give you any decent answers here, but it sounds like you perhaps have made a mistake by allowing your mom to come home with you huh?
Hopefully it's not too late to make other plans for her care.
The hospital may have discharged her sooner then the OP was expecting, so prep may still be in the process of being completed.
Your marriage comes first which may possibly mean Mom going to rehab and then a permanent solution like assisted living if Mom has the funds , or her house can be sold to pay for her care in assisted living .
Are you planning on having mom live with you, from now on? Hubs ma not be happy about this situation. How much of your life taking care of mom has taken over your life? Does, your husband have to work in the morning? Do you?
What was your mom hospitalized for and her health issues.
Maybe we could help , with more information.