My 74 year old brother is becoming very argumentative and cantankerous and for no reason says things that don’t make sense and he’s getting forgetful.
He’s becoming forgetful, unreasonable says he wants his nephew out of his house he wants his house back, there have been no problems or arguments over the past year about the bedroom
Unless the son wishes to be in charge of and caring for someone with dementia I suggest he DOES leave, and at once.
If he then feels Dad needs assessment, it's time for you two, TOGETHER, to call APS and report bro as an undiagnosed senior at risk. Tell them you don't know if he has a simple UTI or if he has dementia, but that he is mentally challenged and you cannot manage him nor get him care. And you and son together CANNOT manage or manage FOR someone this uncooperative. It would be a living 24/7 nightmare for whomever attempts it.
APS, if visiting and opening a case, can ask state court, via a 5150 to get diagnostic workup and guardianship of state with placement if necessary. Do know that if you allow this you will really have nothing to say. Frankly, lucky you.
When my brother was diagnosed, after an auto accident, with probable early Lewy's dementia, he asked me, while competent, to manage his money, his bills, his placement, sale of his last little home, and etc. He was organized, meticulous, cooperative, kind and understanding for the remaining 1 1/2 years of his life. We used a competent attorney. Thank GOD, because even at THAT it was a job and one-half.
Don't take this on. Encourage the son not to take this on. And that's my humble opinion. Whether mental illness, dementia, or a simple UTI there is nothing you can do here without diagnosis and cooperation. Step aside the two of you, support one another, or you'll be pulled under by a drowning man. I am so very, very sorry.
If how your brother is acting is something new, the only way your going to find out what is wrong is take him to his doctor for tests. If he becomes aggressive or violent call the police to have him taken to a hospital ER to be evaluated.
You need to take him to see his PCP. He could have a UTI. Labs should rule out anything physical. Can also do a cognitive test. Medicare covers a physical once a year.
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If he then feels Dad needs assessment, it's time for you two, TOGETHER, to call APS and report bro as an undiagnosed senior at risk.
Tell them you don't know if he has a simple UTI or if he has dementia, but that he is mentally challenged and you cannot manage him nor get him care.
And you and son together CANNOT manage or manage FOR someone this uncooperative.
It would be a living 24/7 nightmare for whomever attempts it.
APS, if visiting and opening a case, can ask state court, via a 5150 to get diagnostic workup and guardianship of state with placement if necessary.
Do know that if you allow this you will really have nothing to say. Frankly, lucky you.
When my brother was diagnosed, after an auto accident, with probable early Lewy's dementia, he asked me, while competent, to manage his money, his bills, his placement, sale of his last little home, and etc. He was organized, meticulous, cooperative, kind and understanding for the remaining 1 1/2 years of his life. We used a competent attorney. Thank GOD, because even at THAT it was a job and one-half.
Don't take this on. Encourage the son not to take this on. And that's my humble opinion. Whether mental illness, dementia, or a simple UTI there is nothing you can do here without diagnosis and cooperation.
Step aside the two of you, support one another, or you'll be pulled under by a drowning man.
I am so very, very sorry.
If how your brother is acting is something new, the only way your going to find out what is wrong is take him to his doctor for tests. If he becomes aggressive or violent call the police to have him taken to a hospital ER to be evaluated.