Anyone else thinking some "seniors" are manipulating and selfish and rely on it to get their way?

Couple weeks ago I posted on "here" about my family dynamics and how over 30 plus years I went from caregiver for my mother, disabled husband, older sister and now older brother. Most responses to my post were very direct, telling me to get rid of my brother (my current nightmare), and know I owe him nothing and start caring more for myself and my own family under my roof. I surprisingly wasn't offended, and it helped me realize my own suspicions were true about my brother's selfishness. I understand that many of us are "stuck" in caregiving roles which turn our own lives upside-down. Like me, as a result of some good advice on here, those of you concerned if you're caring for someone who is taking advantage of you while they refuse to reach out to other sources, maybe a little "truth" in your thinking might help. By expecting everything from you, despite your own responsibilities to yourself and your household, indicates a very selfish, manipulative force which simply DOES NOT CARE WHAT IMPACT IT HAS ON YOU... its only concern is for itself! As mentioned, many of us can't abandon our caregiving role, but assessing the real reason for why we feel so stuck, or know we're being taken advantage of, we may give ourselves a tiny break and actually expect more from the person to whom we tend. Interesting to see how much they actually can do for themselves in some cases....if we stop playing their game. Recently I told my brother if he can't do a couple tiny tasks for himself he'll have to go in a home. He started doing them with no physical discomfort at all. I still have a way to go with him, but it's a start in letting him know I have a say about things too. For those of you who truly know you're the only one who can help your loved one, and you reach out on sites like this for suggestions and resources to do the best you can for them, God Bless You and please don't be insulted by my newly found attitude and approach... no 2 of us has the same situation going.