I am unable to care for my mother due to being on disability. She has dementia and doesn’t qualify for Medicaid. How would I go about making her a ward of the state? My mom lives in New Jersey but I live in California but am homeless living out of my car. I have thought of killing myself since I dont know what to do. I came out to see how she was doing. My brother had to sell the house due to having to make payments for his cancer treatments and he still has to work. He can’t watch her and I can’t stay with them in his cramped apartment and handle things since I’m not all there mentally. It’s too much. I have no choice but to have my mom who I love become a ward of the state. How do I do this?
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Your brother will have access to APS in his own state. You can tell him that, at the point he can no longer handle things himself, to call APS and suggest they take guardianship by the state for your mother.
The suicide hotline nationally is 988. Please call that number any time night or day that you need to speak with someone. See your own doctor to discuss your suicidal ideation.
I wish you the very best and am so sorry that you are going through this.
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And call Adult Protective Services in the city where your mother lives and report a vulnerable adult with dementia living by herself, and explain your situation and they will go and investigate and if need be they will take over her care and she will become a ward of the state. Let her state handle things and her, and you just worry about getting yourself back on the right track.
Thats really all one can do here.