Friendship is over: Should I call?

Is this for real? Just send a card. It’s not about you

This isn't a caregiving question. You should reach out to your friend and send her a card though.

What do you have to lose by sending her a card? The price of a stamp.

She will probably be very happy that you thought enough of her to send a condolence care.

Maybe you should have someone help you write a personal message to her also.

Lola,

I agree with JoAnn. You can send a nice card to express your condolences.

Friends come and go in our lives. Some friends last a lifetime and others are temporary.

If you were close at one point and you want her to know that you are thinking of her, send a card and sign it with a personal message inside.

Are you concerned about how she will respond? Most likely she will see your card as a nice gesture.

It’s never wrong to reach out with a card or call to someone who’s experienced a loss, that’s simply basic human kindness.

Sorry I did it no where to put this topic

I would send her a card and say you just heard about her fathers death and you wanted her to know you were thinking about her.

Nothing there says you need to continue to be friends. Just sending condolences.

With punctuation added: About two months ago my friend's dad died. I had no clue since I live in Vegas. We have stopped talking. She has my cell number. After my mom passed, I decided to move. She was it [wasn't?] very happy about [it] or excited for me. Before that our friendship was it not [wasn't?] so great. I tried to do things with her, like go to the mall. She just does[doesn't?] like going any where so I just stopped before I moved. She was weighing me down. I wanted to travel and meet new people and I have should [have] I call[ed] her about her dad. I have not talked to her in a year. I don�t no if I should after 30 years of friendship. I have [haven't] seen her since 2019. I don�t no. Find new friends. This one doesn't seem to care or have any common interests with you. Put your energies into better people. Practice being a good friend so that you can attract good people.

This isn't a caregiving question at all, but I will say to do what you feel in your heart to do. If the tables were reversed would you want her to reach out to you? Your answer to that question should lead you as to what to do.