Mom’s Dr. of 3 years leaving practice w/no diagnosis for her. How to invoke POA in PA when Mom isn’t speaking to me?
The lawyer is on vacation. Lawyer’s paralegal said I can act on it, and will email lawyer about changes Mom is experiencing. What will it look like to manage her affairs when we haven't spoken since finding out about her all nighters at the diner?
Broad powers effective date POA was executed. Received email confirmation from the lawyer this morning.
I just want her to be looked at by doc with a view to the changes I’ve detailed in two letters.
My notes say she was there a couple months ago. I asked her, at that time, if doc said anything about her hearing. She said no. She doesn’t tell doc what she doesn’t want him to know.
Kat, are you speaking of MEDICAL power of attorney or of financial. If the latter, be CERTAIN you want it. Because that can be court appointed guardianship if needed if you and your Mom don't really get along or communicate. It is NOT EASY ; I am doing it for my brother--all bills and etc. And it takes a great deal of time, and confusion over addresses in one city or the other, where mailings are sent and etc. I am now 6 months in and just beginning to enter a few days without some anxiety of another. It is always something, and this is for two people who can still communicate, who have a huge amount of love and respect for one another and who are both VERY organized, with simple lives and needs. So I am just saying be sure of what is wanted. Certainly this can at the least wait for an attorney to return from vacation. And your current NEW doctor will have ALL the records of the last one. It this is about medical POA much more simple. Let us know.
Yes, the practice should have all records. I was told that Mom’s doc “looked over” the letter.
I need a doc to evaluate her because she has behavioral changes, cognitive decline, reduced concentration, impaired judgement, agitation and sexual actions.
This has taken so much time, so far . . . Thank you for sharing your experiences on financial POA. I don’t look forward to it.
What does the POA state? Is it a springing POA where it requires incapacity? Or standing, no incapacity necessary?
If it is springing it most likely requires two doctors agree to incapacity.
You need to consult with an elder law attorney. If mom is competent she has the right to make her own decisions, even if they are bad ones. I would not rely on a statement by the paralegal.
Has she been checked for a UTI? When was the last time she saw a doctor?
Broad powers effective date of execution of POA. The lawyer responded this morning and confirmed POA is enough to start a conversation with doc. We will talk on Monday.
Unsure if she’s been checked, but double it. She’s not talking to me right now. Maybe she’s gone to the doc - I don’t know. Her last visit, according to what she’s told me is a couple months ago. I asked if doc said anything about her hearing, and said no. I feel she doesn’t tell him what’s really going on. But, again, I don’t know ‘cause I’m not ‘allowed’ to be with her during doc appts.
She tells me what she wants me to know, too. Think I wrote on here before about how I heard she ‘tried out’ Dad’s gun (after he died) through my MIL. She didn’t think there were bullets in it, spun the barrel and shot hole through a wall in her house.
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I just want her to be looked at by doc with a view to the changes I’ve detailed in two letters.
My notes say she was there a couple months ago. I asked her, at that time, if doc said anything about her hearing. She said no. She doesn’t tell doc what she doesn’t want him to know.
Certainly this can at the least wait for an attorney to return from vacation.
And your current NEW doctor will have ALL the records of the last one.
It this is about medical POA much more simple. Let us know.
I need a doc to evaluate her because she has behavioral changes, cognitive decline, reduced concentration, impaired judgement, agitation and sexual actions.
This has taken so much time, so far . . . Thank you for sharing your experiences on financial POA. I don’t look forward to it.
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If it is springing it most likely requires two doctors agree to incapacity.
You need to consult with an elder law attorney. If mom is competent she has the right to make her own decisions, even if they are bad ones. I would not rely on a statement by the paralegal.
Has she been checked for a UTI? When was the last time she saw a doctor?
Unsure if she’s been checked, but double it. She’s not talking to me right now. Maybe she’s gone to the doc - I don’t know. Her last visit, according to what she’s told me is a couple months ago. I asked if doc said anything about her hearing, and said no. I feel she doesn’t tell him what’s really going on. But, again, I don’t know ‘cause I’m not ‘allowed’ to be with her during doc appts.
She tells me what she wants me to know, too. Think I wrote on here before about how I heard she ‘tried out’ Dad’s gun (after he died) through my MIL. She didn’t think there were bullets in it, spun the barrel and shot hole through a wall in her house.