Husband with vascular dementia is removing Depends in bed at night, urine everywhere, refuses bedside commode. What can I do?

You could try the special clothing that is difficult to remove, I'll give you a link

www.buckandbuck.com/mens-adaptive/jumpsuits/sleepsuits.html

I have started using the peapodmats. Check at peapodmats.com I use them on furniture, beds, and floor. I like them even if I have to do laundry every day. It has saved me stripping the bed and shampooing the floors and furniture so far.

If he is peeing in bed, waterproof the bed. Soak proof pad a layer disposable pads on top. Otherwise, try cloth washable diapers. They are more like real underwear so more likely to be accepted. You might just have to grit it and keep trying until it takes. Took years for grandma to stop shredding her diapers. No she'll even let me change them, most of the time.