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desperate2014 Asked August 2014

How not to be sued by your Dad?

Dad had been on zoloft for the last four years since my mother died. He began to wander the neighborhood, buying guns and sleeping with knives. Things got worse when the doctor decided to take him abruptly off Zoloft. Two weeks later, on his 90th birthday he announced that he was going to sue us until we were ruined because he wanted all the stock in the family corporation to set up a foundation for single women--his caregivers. Earlier we had put up with his giving the house to one caregiver and proposing to many and "tipping" them with thousands of dollars and loaning our brother a huge amount of money. The brother, who worked on his farm, doesn't want dad declared incompetent for obvious reasons. Fearing for our father's situation, we had to go to court and I now share his guardianship and conservatorship. The brother and my father are indeed suing us--myself and four other siblings--for forcing this. My enraged father had to be returned to the house by the sheriff because my sister-in-law took him away. The doctor is against us, saying he has only mild dementia and will be using the Zoloft defense next week. Since myself and my five siblings--who have been taking care of him for the last six months--normally live far away, the community sees us the way my brother sees us--just there for the money. Dad, an ex-judge, is drawing out the legal part so our lawyers' fees are indeed ruining us and he still won't have a psych eval. We've offered my brother to be sole guardian and co-conservator but my brother wants to be sole conservator because there's lots of money involved--on their side, not ours. In the meantime, I'm trapped in the house with a furious dad and my brother, the screamer, whom the doctor says should be there because dad wants him to protect him. I am now perfectly happy to let dad wander the streets with my brother, but I need to protect my siblings' assets. Obviously we will inherit nothing as a thanks to trying to protect dad.

BarbBrooklyn Aug 2014
Doc did not taper off Zoloft? Why was that?

desperate2014 Aug 2014
Siblings are not well-off like dad. Dad of course has disinherited them as much as possible, although there is still some money in a trust from Mom.

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gladimhere Aug 2014
Are siblings assets actually inheritance from Dad?

MaggieMarshall Aug 2014
Why are you still living there? Probably the best way to protect your siblings' assets is to back off. If you can settle the lawsuit, do so.

It's far too easy for out-of-towners to swoop into town and upset apple carts. Even though they don't intend to. And, even though their intentions may be the best, those who know your dad and brother will take their side to your detriment unless something is so obvious that a blind man could see it.

I'm having some trouble following your post, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.

pamstegma Aug 2014
The Judge appointed you a Guardian. Only the Judge can un-appoint a Guardian. A lawsuit would not undo that. Nice try, but you are spam.

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