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larfcarter Asked June 2013

How long can a 95 yr old stroke patient live in hospice care without water or any nourishment?

very healthy till stroke, willnot get food or iv . cannot swallow, has dementia

wamnanealz Oct 2014
My brother in law was in hospice in a nursing home, and on a feeding tube which was drowning him in fluids. They took him to a hospice house for his last week. They took out the feeding tube and stopped water too. He didn't need it. He was dying and the body doesn't need anything when it is dying. The fluids were not being absorbed so they just gurgled in his lungs and throat. It sounded awful. When he got into the hospice house he was in complete peace and had absolutely no complaints. He was ready to meet his maker and he knew that he was going to a better place. Hospice house was the doorway to Heaven and everyone who worked there was wonderful.

4LANEY Jun 2013
My sister was 63 years old and had suffered with Pick's Disease/FTD for 11 years. She was 5' 4" and weighed about 120 # usually. She ate VERY well, and generally walked around the house and danced it off daily until one Sunday morning, 15 days before she died. That morning she went from walking independently to not being able to even stand. She barely spoke. At breakfast she ate part of an omelet, oatmeal, and juice. By supper she was bedridden (& then for the remained bedridden for the rest of her life), not speaking, and was able to swallow only a few bites of a ground up pot roast and noodle casserole mixed with applesauce Sunday evening. By midnight, she could no longer swallow her meds crushed in applesauce and then slightly liquified with her favorite juice, even though this mixture was given to her extremely slowly with a 10cc syringe (no needle of course.) I should tell you that I have been a nurse for many years. I've even been a hospice nurse for about 4 or 5 of those years. I have seen how patients often (in one way or another) reject tube feedings and other forced feedings as they'd caused misery. (I firmly believe that no one should do anything to another to hasten death nor prolong life inappropriately. Rather, our job is to help safely provide comfort and caring in order to help one on his/her journey whenever/wherever that is.) By Tuesday I was crushing my sister's Morphine & Ativan and administering it buccally with a few drops of applesauce thickened water. She started having periods of nonresponsiveness up to a few times a day. These periods would become more frequent and longer in duration, although most of the time through her death she was minimally responsive. Of course I still talked to her, softly read and told stories, played and sang familiar favorites (even many taped by our mother), etc., etc.. It wasn't long before I was giving some and then almost all of her meds rectally. We had some trouble (mechanically) maintaining a sub-q infusion (even at a KVO rate) so this option never really materialized for her. I kept her skin (including her nose and mouth mucosa) cleaned and moistened, and turned her and repositioned her at least every 2 hours, usually using plenty of pillows. My goal was to try to maintain the highest level of comfort possible, and I can honestly say that I am quite certain my sister was as comfortable through her death as possible. She did not needlessly suffer any additional distress or misery.

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OncehatedDIL Jun 2013
Our hospice person said 14 days was the longest she saw anyone in a similar situation last. My FIL lasted 11 days.

augie122022 Jun 2013
mom lasted 17 days. hang in there, my prayers are with you.

jfryhospice Jul 2013
One thing we've notice on hospice care is that if a patient has been on IV fluids just prior to coming onto hospice care....for example, if they had been in the hospital just prior to coming onto hospice care....they seem to last longer. The IVs seem to hydrate the body (which they're obviously supposed to be doing), so the body has more fluid to live off from even when an IV is no longer being used and the person is no longer taking in any fluids. Also, it can be painful to force food or fluids into someone near the end of life. Their body/organs are shutting down and don't need the nutrition and fluids. The food and liquids kind of end up just sitting there since they can't be absorbed or are absorbed very slowly. Not a comfortable feeling. In our hospice program we encourage caregivers to offer food and fluids to their loved one as long as they can safely swallow and/or indicate they want it. They might not be able to verbally say they want it, but may open their mouth when food is near (although that can be kind of a natural reflex.) Regardless, we keep their lips and mouth moistened with some little sponges on the end of a stick that are dipped in water. I've seen a patient go 3 weeks with no food or fluids, but she had IVs at the hospital prior to admission on hospice. The human spirit is pretty amazing!

cloudyskies Nov 2014
My 84-year-old MIL broke her hip this past spring and has declined steadily. She has lost almost 40 lbs. in seven months. She is in hospice at home. She is about 5'1" and weighs 69 pounds now. For the past month she has been surviving on a few sips of water per day and a bite of cracker or applesauce. I think she is not nearly ready to go and is going to continue like this for months. Does anyone have experience with a family member weighing less than 69 lbs.? How much weight can she lose and continue to survive? How long?

wamnane Jun 2013
My dad lasted only three days. We were definitely blessed to not have to watch him go slowly.

IsntEasy Jul 2013
Before our culture developed to be one where the health care system intervened in nearly every natural process, everyone understood death and most people had seen it firsthand and up close. Not eating or drinking is normal at the end of life.
As for NH employees who would sneak antibiotics into a dying patient, that's shocking! To me, that's a little like throwing water in the face of someone who's being tortured to revive them enough to experience it longer.
Death can be peaceful and painless if you let nature and God take over.

butterflykisses Jun 2013
And you did it...bless you. This is a beautiful thing you did for your sis. That is what Hospice is all about and I can say from experience, they are wonderful people. Thank you for sharing your story, 4Laney, and being a Hospice nurse.

LadeeC Jun 2013
My mom, when her lung cancer metastasized to bone cancer, said "that's it" and went home to die. After a very short time (about 2 weeks of increasing pain/morphine), she refused even her favorite nutritional shakes. Her only "intake" of fluids was her IV morphine. She lasted another 6 weeks. When I asked the hospice nurse how she could possibly be lasting that long, she said, "She's not ready, yet."

The human spirit is astounding. Blessings on you and your loved ones. I hope the passing is soft and easy ... however long it takes.

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