I agree with JessieBelle. Where there's a will, there's a relative. I'm going through similar stuff with my sister. She was always my mom's favorite and my mom never punished my sister for any wrong doing toward me. I was the most hated family member just because I was born. We lost my mom last March and she wasn't barely in the grave when my sister decided to help herself to my mom's trust (we were given access to write off mom's bills and provide for our travel since we both live up north and our mom was in Florida). Then, she took my mom's car (which we both co-own), and wanted access to our disabled sister's share of inheritance all with reimbursement if it suited her. All of this didn't sit well with our mom's lawyer and financial guy. She's now quite humbled. Your brother has a new home and a new bed to lay in. Leave him alone and don't even contact him. He did it himself, he pays for it himself. As for my sister, she's now setting up to reimburse for everything and we talk some from time to time.
Do not help him in any way. Make sure prosecution attempts to get restitution for your mom/her estate. They will deduct it from his income for the rest of his life, if necessary, and serve as a reminder every time he gets a paycheck of what he did. He is not sorry hee did it. He is sorry he got caught.
Absolutely, I agree. my bros did the same thing to both my mom and dad. They did not go to jail. Parents were manipulated. My parents didn't have the heart to put them in jail. They caused my mom misery after my dads death. my dad was a verbal abusive person and was phisically abusive to my mom. he had her relinquish her rights to the house she lived in when they moved to Florida when my dad retired. Didn't know this until after my dad died. The property was left to his illigitamite granddaughter when my brother passes. . it was a big shock. Let him take the time to think. My bro was in jail after being abusive to his daughter and dog. He eventually got out. I didn't answer his calls. he wanted the easy way out. His ex and daughter left with his account. What goes around comes around. He is not your responsibility. That's how I felt. How's your mom taking all of this.? if she can get by with what she has she is better off. My other brother would call my mom for money until she was sick to her stomach. The last four years he chooses not to speak to my mom nor to any other family members. That's fine by me. it's his choice. I take care of my mom on my own and I really don't need them to cause more headaches. it upsets me knowing I have 2 bros that don't care about the importantance of family. Sorry, had to vent. Equinox
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Let him take the time to think. My bro was in jail after being abusive to his daughter and dog. He eventually got out. I didn't answer his calls. he wanted the easy way out. His ex and daughter left with his account. What goes around comes around. He is not your responsibility. That's how I felt. How's your mom taking all of this.? if she can get by with what she has she is better off. My other brother would call my mom for money until she was sick to her stomach. The last four years he chooses not to speak to my mom nor to any other family members. That's fine by me. it's his choice. I take care of my mom on my own and I really don't need them to cause more headaches.
it upsets me knowing I have 2 bros that don't care about the importantance of family.
Sorry, had to vent.
Equinox