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boothm Asked September 2012

What rights does a child have if she is not the POA and her brother is but will not share any info at all even though daughter is caretaker?

I am the caretaker of my mother. My brother was named POA just shortly before my father passed last year she has quite a bit of money I take care of her totally she has advanced Alzheimer. He will not share any info with me whatsoever Do I have any rights to be involved I fear he is up to no good
PLs help
I am seeing a lawyer next week
THX

CarmenMaria Sep 2012
My sister has POA I know my mom has dementia my sister had my mother sign a paper but I know my mother didn't know what she sign for I know my mom is now put into assistant living without any of her other children knowing don't we have right she never told me she had to get a POA and made this decision on her own my brother and want to take her and put her around us where she has much more family what can I do my mom still know who I am by voice on the phone and my kids

vstefans Sep 2012
Tinacares - can you go to Adult Protective Services rather than law enforcement directly? Especially if mom's bills are no longer being paid and the siblings are using money for their own needs or wants now?

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hessaw Sep 2012
These are the times that can tear families apart. If possible hire an experienced elder lawyer who can counsel the whole family on your options and responsibilities.

tweetydeb Sep 2012
What I need to know who is legally responsible for the finicial care of the person if there are 6 children?

tweetydeb Sep 2012
What if there is no POA and the person is having trouble, who is legally responsible for the care?

Tinacares Sep 2012
Wow......can I relate to this question. I have found there are no answers except going through the court system to get guardianship. Unfortunately, I have been unemployed for 4 years and don't have the money to go through all of this. My Mom suffers from Alzheimer's and she is progressing moderately and needs 24/7 care. I'm at my wits end and don't know where to turn to any more. My older siblings want to fight and deny Mom the right care. My brother has tricked Mom to deeding the house to him so she can't qualify for Medicaid. He has it all and now my sister wiped her bank account out that I was joint owner and opened up a new account in her name. I had all of mom's bills being auto drafted. It's a mess....and going to the local law enforcement has been a bigger mess.

cheryl114 Sep 2012
You have a couple of options neither of which will be easy. To answer your question first, your brother does not have to share any information with you. You do need to know that a P.O.A. is only effective when your mother can not speak for herself. Now lets talk about your options, the first would be to have your mother name you as her new P.O.A. and revoke your brothers rights as a P.O.A. The second option would be for you to work through the courts to become your mothers guardian, This is not an easy process and may result in a third party being named as your mother's guardian. I hope this is helpful.

honeycomb Sep 2012
From my experience your brother does not have to share info with you in fact there might be a law in your state protecting the will, and any info pertaining to it.

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