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TIREDT Asked June 2009

Daddy won't eat! I throw away so much food. He has lost 8 lbs. What can I do?

linda09 Jul 2009
hi ,, my dad has lost 30 lbs in one month . he is never hungry anymore . takes one bite of his favorite food s , then doesnt want anymore . one thing he will do is drink alot of v8 juices , thats is his fav juices of all . he will be 86 yrs old next week . my dad is a fighter , tries to walk even tho his legs are so weak . bless his heart ,
i am so glad to have found you tonite and it helps me to know that i am not doing this all alone cuz there is others out there that is going thru the same thing i am .
i am so ashame of other families , they dont come and see dad like they should . not even a phone call t o say happy fathers day ,(one brother did call) theres 5 of us . but thats ok .. i got alot of good memories with dad for 2 years . i love my dad ....
i treat him like he s my lit boy and he deserve the best girl out of the bunch to love him and take care of him .

TIREDT Jul 2009
Thanks Phyllis for responding as I am very concerned. Since the doctor visit I have a nurse that is starting next week coming 3x a week and a test for swallowing will be done. I do hug him when he lets me and on ths same topic, Is this nearing the final stage, because the doctor said the same thing you just said, to give him whatever he will eat, chips, cookies or whatever and not to worry about healthy. It is so very hard to have a front row seat to death and this is my secondtime around and it is slowly breaking me down but I will be here until the end no matter what.

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pkpurs Jul 2009
A lot of Alzhiemers people don't remember if they have eaten or not. My mom wanted to eat constantly when she first got to the point that she didn't remember anything anymore. Then she didn't eat but a few bites here and there. She messed mostly. I started leaving "finger foods" laying on the table. Cookies, chips, etc. They weren't the healtiest but It was better than nothing. As she neared the last couple of weeks, she didn't eat even those. We found out she had Dysphasia and she couldn't hardly swallow. Sometimes she would take a bite and then spit it out because her brain didn't tell her throat to swallow. Hospice told us that at the end, the body doesn't really need to eat. The body seems to know even if your brain doesn't. Of course, wit Alziemers, your brain isn't functioning very well anyway. It is very sad to watch your parent just basically starve to death!! Hang in there and know that there is a better place. I know my mom is no longer suffering and that is what is important.........be patient, if you have to throw food away, it is only food!!there is always something to smile about if you look hard enough.......hug you dad a lot, that is one thing he does need!!.......Phyllis

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