Some of you might remember my post from a couple years ago. I moved in with my elderly neighbor to care for her, quit my full time job, saw her through to the end and yes, I inherited the house. I wanted to come back to tell you all. Thank you to those who provided me with good advice, sympathy and encouragement. And to those who called me a grifter, a fool, etc. Well. I'm not sure if I should gloat or what. Details: she finally agreed to Hospice care January 2025. They were wonderful. It took a couple weeks of coaxing but she finally let them bathe her and it became twice weekly. The nurse got her to admit she was in pain, something she would not admit to me, and the drugs they gave her improved her mood considerably. She became quite pleasant even. She passed away in March, cause of death being suspected cancer, but we will never know because she refused all tests and there was no autopsy. I held her hand and read from her Bible to her as she took her last breath. It was a very humbling experience for me. I did all the executor duties with the help of her attorney, the same attorney that made her will 5 or 6 years ago. Probate wraps up today in fact, and then I can start remodeling the house. I did spend part of her savings to do needed repairs during the probate process as I was told by the attorney that would be ok because its improving the estate. For anyone who was worried that my son was being used as a "slave" for caregiving, he and his girlfriend moved out this summer and are thriving on their own in another city. He's fine. Just because a situation is unconventional doesnt mean its bad. I hope YOU learn something from this.
Anyone who wants the full story, find my 2 other posts and read the comments, too. There is alot of good advice on this forum.
Again, I'm glad things worked out for you.
Guess what. For the two of THEM it worked as well. It can work, this. I think you shouldn't have a whole lot of animosity for those who disagreed with the actions, because lordy, there are many times when this DOESN'T work. But when it does it can be a godsend for all involved.
I really thank you for coming back to update us. I access your old posts and remembered well when I began to read. It's lovely you can back to fill us all in.
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It's very good of you to come back with the update; many people don't.
I like the line in your post, "Just because a situation is unconventional doesn't mean it's bad."
That is so true.
Thank you for providing an update. I wish more folks who have posted in the past would do so.