When I really needed a break from caregiving, my siblings-in-laws didn't give me a real break.
SIL #1, 2,& 5 helped out where they could. My husband is child #4 and #3 barely helped out when my husband & I were exhausted. Now my MIL is in a Nursing Home (NH). I don't like the fact that the sisters did not consult my husband (their brother). It still bothers me (and my husband) almost a year later. I know I don't have a real say because I'm not blood-related, but all they said to my husband was, I hope you'll go along with our decision. It was the DPOA SIL that was doing the speaking for all of the sisters. Still don't think it was fair.