Incontinence vs. laziness vs. memory loss.
My mother had a stroke May 2013 affecting her short term memory and cognition. Rehabbed physically and doing well, however due to congestion heart failure she is on a daily diuretic. I've been the caregiver since the stroke, sibs out, whole other topic we won't address. I lost my business and ran thru all $$ caregiving, am now working 3000 miles away to refill coffers and managing care from a distance. Dad was in great shape but this has taken its toll, I have a of girlfriend who is helping my man of 39 years in the care along with a family friend. Things run pretty smooth except mom started having accidents last summer heavily and has to change several times a day. I have her in depends with poise pads but she just goes so it's not holding and they are getting more and more bound to the house. We don't know if it's incontinence, she doesn't remember the feeling of urgency, she's gotten lazy or something else. I've asked cardiologist if we can reduce diuretic, he is reviewing all blood work. I've sent several types of plastic pants to dad to try but so far moms not happy with any and without being there I can't determine if they are uncomfortable due to fit or if she's adverse to the plastic. Trying to explain to her is difficult due to the memory. I'm hoping someone might have experience with some sort of comfortable leak proof panty that can go over the depends and maybe free them up to go out a bit more which will help dads mental health.
Thanks to all...this site is a godsend and I tell anyone who is dealing with caregiving about it. It's literally saved my mental health and life.
God bless all you awesome caregivers. You are all beautiful!!