I wish I had known all of you last year when my brother was having so many problem. We were busy getting the guilt trip of the millennium laid on us just for wanting our brother to live. We were told that we had no choice, that this would happen and that would happen( ad nauseum) and that we had no control. We were told our brother was comatose ( by physicians) and could make no decisions. He opened his eyes and told them his decision. Then they decided he was incompetent and could make no decision. They told us that we had to take him home to die and he would get 2 baths a week and a few visits depending on his condition ( not sure how much worse you can get than dying). Our brother makes a little bit too much social security to qualify for anything but he did max out his insurance so it helped. Thanks for all of you and your input. I have learned so much on this journey. And we have a non terminal functional brother who does the things men do ( no cooking or cleaning, but he can cut the grass and take care of himself and participate with the family).
I found the definitions of ADLs as listed in this article to be very clear and easy to understand. My mother-in-law has been living with my husband and me for the last 13 years, by her choice. At this point, she requires assistance with all of her ADLs. We have been reluctant to get in-home assistance, but her needs have been growing exponentially during the last few months. I know in my heart that we cannot continue to provide all of her care without professional assistance. I believe I will call the local AAA to get their advice regarding a home assessment. Thank you.
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We were busy getting the guilt trip of the millennium laid on us just for wanting our brother to live.
We were told that we had no choice, that this would happen and that would happen( ad nauseum) and that we had no control.
We were told our brother was comatose ( by physicians) and could make no decisions.
He opened his eyes and told them his decision. Then they decided he was incompetent and could make no decision.
They told us that we had to take him home to die and he would get 2 baths a week and a few visits depending on his condition ( not sure how much worse you can get than dying).
Our brother makes a little bit too much social security to qualify for anything but he did max out his insurance so it helped.
Thanks for all of you and your input.
I have learned so much on this journey. And we have a non terminal functional brother who does the things men do ( no cooking or cleaning, but he can cut the grass and take care of himself and participate with the family).