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There was a time where I never cried for years! Because I was trying to be like my dad he never cried. Now today I knew it was a mistake to bottle up those emotions like that. one Night our family cat was just getting on I my nerves with constant meowing. I was getting more and more annoyed with the cat that I picked up and threw her on the floor my bigger sister heard what I did and scolded me for it and for first time after years of not crying. I just cried and said I'm sorry I let my emotions get bottled up to much and now I cry weekly to keep myself ever doing that again. long story short anger can be VERY dangerous when not taken care of. rage can sometimes be blind.
I used to think crying was a sign of weakness. As many of you, I have suffered many hardships in my life. After my grandma passed away, who I was caregiving, I cried like never before. She was my world. I have/had no kids, worked fulltime and cared for her. It was devistating. For whatever reason, the dams opened up and I cry so easily now. I have become the most sensitive person I know. I feel like a cry baby. I get very emotional very quickly. I think it's from so many years of keeping everything pent up. I can't says it make me feel better but a 1-2 minute cry almost weekly makes me wonder if I'm nuts. Blessings
We cry very easily in our family; my brothers, cousins, sister, my kids. It's not wailing cry baby stuff, it's from being sensitive, caring and compassionate. Maybe partly from the melancholy Irish. We show all our emotions, which is what they're for! Lol! It's very healthy to use a balance of emotions, including anger. Whaaa!
I had a good cry just this morning. My mother who lives with Alzheimer's Disease called my cell phone this morning to tell me that there was a strange man in her house who slept over last night. She didn't recognize that I was the mysterious stranger. I am approaching my 64th birthday. Not being recognized by your own mother is heartbreaking.
Exactly Jeanne! I have never felt that it solved anything or helped me in any way. When I finished not only was I in the same doggoned place, I felt like crap besides! I hate a stuffy nose so much, I feel as if I am suffocating, I cannot bear it!
Now, to be certain, I was definitely TAUGHT not to cry, by women who were taught not to cry, and God only knows how many generations that goes back. They are Scotts and Swedes for the most part. I remember being reprimanded and made fun of ever since I was very small, even physically. I was smacked and I was shook. I love my aunties mind you, they are amazingly strong women and I share many of their qualities, (think of two women in the seventies going through cancer treatments, but cleaning up storm debris in the yard of one auntie together with their husbands after the really big storm on the east coast. Yeah, THAT kind of strength, the kind my mother never had and never will). But I do remember them and my mother singing to me all the time, "Big Girls Don't Cry". Apparently I cried a lot as a child? I would have been eight years years or less, in that particular memory I was around six. I was even younger for the other memories.
Because of this I allowed and validated my children's feelings including crying, I helped them find the words to express themselves so that together we could find an answer to the problem, and/or I held them and soothed them. Except for whining, I don't deal with manipulation. Whiners took naps.
On average, women cry 47 times a year?! I must be at least 30 years behind schedule, I've been so far below average since my first marriage ended. Maybe its because I don't like the physical feelings afterward and the fact that it doesn't solve anything (sorry, I'm basically pretty results-oriented). Or maybe that is just my nature. It would be interesting to see that study broken down by age group. Do women in their 30s cry more than women in their 60s? Anyway, I don't hold back on crying ... I just don't cry much now.
When we are overwhelmed we start to hold our breaths. As caregivers we don't know when the next "thing" will happen and we hold our breath or take shallow breaths. To cry we need to take deep breaths - think of a small child when they start to go their tummies go in and our and then the sobbing starts. Mimic that and the tears will flow. Tears release toxins and that is why our eyes get red. Wash your face with cool water and pat dry.
I try not to cry too much these days for similar reasons - my whole head starts to hurt and I was recently severely reprimanded by an incredibly callous nursing "manager". for doing so. I was in my Mom's private room, grieving over her abusive husband and son sticking her in a nursing home. The dolt of a "manager" told me to take it somewhere else, that she did not want me to upset the other residents. The other residents could not even hear me. Rather than crying and causing myself physical pain for doing so, I'd rather give people like that a good thrashing. But I don't do that either. God will give them a thrashing in His time. I do, however, post my grievances online to let other potential customers know what a dismal staff they have working there.
Crying, for me, happens when I least expect it. Something sets it off; happiness or sadness. It just happens and it lasts a few seconds. It feels right...then I get on with whatever I'm doing.
Crying was always something I did when my world crashed in on me or when life simply got bigger then me. then one day I was told I was an emotional cripple for crying. that was the last time. That was 3 years ago. So, now I just get quiet. But I know crying is needed to clean out the saddness or anything else. I haven't had a good cry since that day. So-o-o, I ended up with a therapist:). We are working on why I cried so much and why we all need a good soul cleaning once in awhile. One day at a time.
i haven't had any luck with crying making me feel better. first of all my nose gets runny and stuffy at the same time, it's very uncomfortable. i will start out crying small but at some point the crying gets out of control and i have big problems stopping, it can go on for hours. i have to begin holding my breath and splashing cold water on my face. And yet still I will be choking on my tears for hours after that. Nope, I can't afford to cry.
When I cry it has nothing to do with "a pity party". It is a much needed emotional release to be able to move on to the next thing to be dealt with. Grieving is a natural reaction, showing emotion is also natural. We celebrate and cheer with no remorse. I am 55 and have finally reached a point in my life that I don't have to react "appropriately" according to expectations but can let my emotions be what they are. I am a CPA and have been happily married for almost 33 years, so I don't think I am an emotional basketcase. We should stop being so judgmental as to what is "acceptable".
guess a good cry is better than going better than going around a grumpy mood especially when the people around you don't understand or don't give a damn. hate to be so blunt, but that's how it feels sometimes. it hurts and it gets old after a while. I get tired of it.
Yes we need to cry. That's why we listen to beautiful music that stirs our soul to tears, or think about the good that can also bring us to tears. We cry sometimes for release from our emotions, but crying can also bring on a break down if we let it go uncontrolled. I have had it happen to me.
Carolf, You are absoulity right. But that is for each indivisual whom may call it something different, other than pity party tears. The Tears cleanse the tear ducts and helps your heart muscle. Which can only leave you feeling 'Better" , unless you buy in to the idea that tears are of no benifit to anyone. If you are true to yourself the stress relief will be there. Call it what you will.
The right kind of crying is great. The tears you shed when you hear of another person's pain always helps, but personally, I have found that pity party tears magnify situations, cause marriage problems, and leave you stressed more, and in a mess. A much better form of stress relief is to count your blessings.
I understand completely. I need a time to just let it go and not worry about someone else being worried that I'm upset. It helps me to deal with whatever is going to come next and not fall apart.
I cry almost every day since my husband passed away 2 1/2 year ago. Mostly in the morning while having my coffee, because my sweet husband would always bring me my me every morning. I also cry at sad or happy movies. I feel that a good cry helps the heart and makes it stronger.
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Now, to be certain, I was definitely TAUGHT not to cry, by women who were taught not to cry, and God only knows how many generations that goes back. They are Scotts and Swedes for the most part. I remember being reprimanded and made fun of ever since I was very small, even physically. I was smacked and I was shook. I love my aunties mind you, they are amazingly strong women and I share many of their qualities, (think of two women in the seventies going through cancer treatments, but cleaning up storm debris in the yard of one auntie together with their husbands after the really big storm on the east coast. Yeah, THAT kind of strength, the kind my mother never had and never will). But I do remember them and my mother singing to me all the time, "Big Girls Don't Cry". Apparently I cried a lot as a child? I would have been eight years years or less, in that particular memory I was around six. I was even younger for the other memories.
Because of this I allowed and validated my children's feelings including crying, I helped them find the words to express themselves so that together we could find an answer to the problem, and/or I held them and soothed them. Except for whining, I don't deal with manipulation. Whiners took naps.
Tears release toxins and that is why our eyes get red. Wash your face with cool water and pat dry.
happiness or sadness. It just happens and it lasts a few seconds. It feels right...then I get on with whatever I'm doing.
But that is for each indivisual whom may call it something different, other than pity party tears.
The Tears cleanse the tear ducts and helps your heart muscle.
Which can only leave you feeling 'Better" , unless you buy in to the idea that
tears are of no benifit to anyone.
If you are true to yourself the stress relief will be there.
Call it what you will.
Mostly in the morning while having my coffee, because my sweet husband would always bring me my me every morning.
I also cry at sad or happy movies.
I feel that a good cry helps the heart and makes it stronger.