My mother married 5 times, collected a fortune from them, as they are all passed away, I had to raise my brother because, she never wanted us around her husband's. Needless to say, my brother overdosed at the age of 36. Now, my mom wants me back in her life and come see her every day, she is always mad at me and I'm scared if her. She believes people live in a attic that are trying to steal her money, and has accused us of stealing anything she misplaced. I do not go into her apartment, because if she moves anything, then i stold it ..I'm trying..I'm going to therapy, but after all these years, it's hard to spend time with her. I feel guilty...anyone have ideas?
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Your mother obviously has some form of dementia, but that is not your problem.
You need to just report her to APS and let them open a file on her, and if need be the state can take over her care when the time comes.
You have been damaged enough by this woman who gave you birth(she honestly doesn't deserve the title of mother)and you don't deserve to be damaged any more.
So PLEASE for God's sake, step as far away as possible, and start looking out for yourself and your mental health. You deserve so much better!
The woman who birthed you made her bed and now she gets to lie in it.
Carma's a b**ch isn't it?
She owes you for raising her son.
You’ve done more than enough already .
She is now a needy elderly trying to set you up to be her caregiver.
Don’t succumb to the …..she’s my mother and she’s old guilt .
You can call APS to check on Mom.
You need to take care of you . It’s up to you whether or not you want to be involved in making sure she gets care . She has the money to pay for it . It sounds like she needs 24 hour supervision in a facility . Do not live with Mom or take Mom in your home .
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Please don't sacrifice yourself to your horrible Mom another day.
She has the money to pay for her healthcare. It's not your fault she got old with Alzheimers. It will never be easy to be around such an abuser. You owe her NOTHING.
You obviously have a kind heart. Don't feel guilty. You did what was right in your life, not your Mom.
Don't answer her calls, go visit or feel sorry for her. She was not a true Mother to you. Try hard to keep her out of your mind, she doesn't deserve to be there. Find things you love to do instead, and go do them.
Do this for your Brother, I bet he would tell you to avoid your Mom too.
Do kind things for good people. Make that your mission in life. Your Brother will watch over you from above,
DO NOT LIVE WITH MOM or TAKE HER INTO YOUR HOME.
No, of course not. You didn't cause your mother's problems and you cannot fix them.
She had no problem ignoring your needs as you grew up; time to take a leaf from her own book.
Provide her with the numbers of EMS and 911. Get on with your own life.
Staying in abusive relationships is a CHOICE, and if that is your choice then you will have to accept responsibility for it.
I wish you the best of luck.