Yes just live the days you have together. I ask myself sometimes if my doctor tells me that I only have 6 weeks to live give or take a few how would I want to spend them. my answer with my son and husband, friends meals if I can eat them laughter and remembering the good times. I think most of us would answer in a similar fashion. Love is so important but at the end of our journey here on earth I think it means more . We can't fight nature, We are not in control as much as we would like to think beleive me. much love to you
I agree with Stephen763, that is sound advice. Keeping a good relationship with your mom is what you should do and leave the rest up to her and the doctors. Give her lots of hugs and love at this point.
Everyone copes with illness differently, and it takes time for one to accept a diagnosis, such as cancer, not to mention his/her own mortality. Assuming your mother is older- she most likely has had these thoughts.
What sound important to you is that you maintain a relationship with your mother. So, do that; share your feelings, try to be non-judgmental, and acknowledge her emotions and feelings.
As far as any medical concerns ie., medication or treatment- I’d suggest getting her doctor to assist in deciding upon the best course of therapy. Depending on the stage of your mother’s pancreatic cancer- s/he might advise that doing nothing is the best course of action.
Are you sure there are good reasons for her to accept that she has pancreatic cancer? What difference will it make to her life if she accepts it? Maybe just being understanding is the best you can do. A little understanding can go a long way.
Dear grandnana, denial is a big part of a terminal disease. It is OK that your mom doesn't except her diagnosis right now. Maybe she will never outwardly except it, but be sure that someday, deep inside, she will except. Just love her and let her deal with it her way. I know it is frustrating for you but you can't force her to see things your way. Give her time. Just take a big breath and be good to yourself.
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What sound important to you is that you maintain a relationship with your mother. So, do that; share your feelings, try to be non-judgmental, and acknowledge her emotions and feelings.
As far as any medical concerns ie., medication or treatment- I’d suggest getting her doctor to assist in deciding upon the best course of therapy. Depending on the stage of your mother’s pancreatic cancer- s/he might advise that doing nothing is the best course of action.
Just love her and let her deal with it her way. I know it is frustrating for you but you can't force her to see things your way.
Give her time. Just take a big breath and be good to yourself.