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I thought I could help my elderly parent. We agreed to 1 year so she could get the medical care she needed.
I love my mother, I know she gave birth to me and worked hard to raise her kids, but my life has become hell.
Only 3 and 1/2 months in and I've been to numerous urgent cares and 3 emergency rooms.
My mother is not well, she is an anxiety driven hypochondriac. I tried, I believe her, argued with doctors that they weren't helping her. It turns out she is making herself sick. We got her a place to live In a nice senior community for the 1 year. We are footing the bill. We jumped thru hoops now she doesn't want to live there.
The is combative, argumentative, acuses us of things and tells people I am mean to her.
I've done nothing but try to help her, my spouse and I are ready to have nervous breakdown.
She refuses to sign medical Poland mental powers of attorney, so when things home front I can't help and then she blames me for it.
I've had to take her medication and schedule it. She is supposed to be on antibiotics for an infection but comes up with all sorts of reasons she can't, won't and so on. I'm trying to help her get well, but I feel like I'm at t war.
I. Know people will write how ungrateful I am. Please do not go there, you are not. Walking in my shoes. My mom is literally making me sick, I'm traumatized by her abuse and then she tells people how wonderful her children a re.
I've asked for help, I can't cope, ready to have a mental breakdown, scratch that, I am having a mental breakdown.
I feel like my life is. Jumping thru hoops she causes then changes her mind.
Then there is the manipulation, she lies and tells family I don't treat her well. I've put. My health, marriage on hold, sent her on vacations anything yo try and make her happy.
She is sick, and I'm not equipped to handle it. I feel hopeless and angry and sad all at once.
I don't know the solution, this is my story and it is hell.
I keep hoping for a breakthrough but throw it is none.
You can't help people who don't want to be helped, I should have learned this from my alcoholic dad. I had to set boundaries, I grew up and I decided when I would see him, but never would I have thought my mother would become this way and refuse trea tent, yet call 911 for any reason at all.
I'm lost inwantnher yo rho, I feel guilty, but i can't help it I'm miserable.
Interesting article about the plight of empty nesters and their elderly parents. I feel it is more important to take care of the family you created than the one you were born to. My priorities rest first with my husband and I , my children and my grandchildren. It is the role I assumed when I married and had children. I have no problem helping my elderly parents, but not at the expense of the family I created. I am a wife and mother first. I also have made preparations for my own future so that my children never have to be put in this delimma. My concern is more for the future generations and the struggles they may have to face, not for past generations who had it better, but never bothered to plan for their later senior years.
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By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Empty Nester No More: Boomers Brace for Parental Tenants
I love my mother, I know she gave birth to me and worked hard to raise her kids, but my life has become hell.
Only 3 and 1/2 months in and I've been to numerous urgent cares and 3 emergency rooms.
My mother is not well, she is an anxiety driven hypochondriac. I tried, I believe her, argued with doctors that they weren't helping her. It turns out she is making herself sick. We got her a place to live In a nice senior community for the 1 year. We are footing the bill. We jumped thru hoops now she doesn't want to live there.
The is combative, argumentative, acuses us of things and tells people I am mean to her.
I've done nothing but try to help her, my spouse and I are ready to have nervous breakdown.
She refuses to sign medical Poland mental powers of attorney, so when things home front I can't help and then she blames me for it.
I've had to take her medication and schedule it. She is supposed to be on antibiotics for an infection but comes up with all sorts of reasons she can't, won't and so on. I'm trying to help her get well, but I feel like I'm at t war.
I. Know people will write how ungrateful I am. Please do not go there, you are not. Walking in my shoes. My mom is literally making me sick, I'm traumatized by her abuse and then she tells people how wonderful her children a re.
I've asked for help, I can't cope, ready to have a mental breakdown, scratch that, I am having a mental breakdown.
I feel like my life is. Jumping thru hoops she causes then changes her mind.
Then there is the manipulation, she lies and tells family I don't treat her well. I've put. My health, marriage on hold, sent her on vacations anything yo try and make her happy.
She is sick, and I'm not equipped to handle it. I feel hopeless and angry and sad all at once.
I don't know the solution, this is my story and it is hell.
I keep hoping for a breakthrough but throw it is none.
You can't help people who don't want to be helped, I should have learned this from my alcoholic dad. I had to set boundaries, I grew up and I decided when I would see him, but never would I have thought my mother would become this way and refuse trea tent, yet call 911 for any reason at all.
I'm lost inwantnher yo rho, I feel guilty, but i can't help it I'm miserable.