Can anyone recommend a product (or products) to use to help mom's hair hold the curls? Mom is 90 years old. I want to curl her hair a little before we go out for Mother's Day brunch. I plan to use a curling iron. What can I put in mom's thin, fine hair that will hold the curls for a little while? Thanks for any advice. (I don't know if I'll get notified when there's a new comment, so feel free to message me. Thanks again.)

I am guardian for Mom, with Alzheimer's Disease. She is in a skilled facility and is late stage. My sister continues to color her hair against my wishes. Mom now has super sensitive skin. I am against the wall at bow to handle this. Suggestions, please.

I've made arrangements with the hair dresser that when that time comes she will come to the house and do her hair. Cost a little more; she's worth it. : ))

This is all about being creative and not coloring on the lines. My aunt had parkinsons and her mood could change on a dime. Time of day was another factor. Sponge baths often because her own fear of balance. Knock on wood this wasn't an issue with me, but i did witness un stable care givers. Warming the room warming the bench or seat. I would take a washcloth and put it on the seat get it wet so it would be nice and warm. I also wrapped a towel around her not caring if it got wet while i washed hair. Made her warm and o got the job done. If the shower isnt an option use peri with the sponge bath. Best stuff since sliced bread.no need to rinse if you cant mo problem. Also as for hair the spray shampoo or again peri. Now. What i got creative with was i had her lay down in bed with warm covers i got a towel under head got a trash bag on top then i tucked a wash cloth half in her neck back followed by some of the trash bag. I rolled a make shift bowl with trash bag and the towel under it kept the form. I used a spray bottle warm water a wash cloth a bowl filled with water and i soaked hair them a dime size shampoo worked a lather squeeze washcloth with clean water and squeeze with a comb comb dip in clean water comb dip. Continue it will remove th shampoo. Squeeze water over head as needed. Takes about 10 min and i dont recommend for long hair. Its very soothing, they are snug as a bug and you have a clean head in the making. Switch out towels as needed. Hospice taught me this and its been a life saver. Make sure you wipe the ears out also. It works well. Good luck...

A warm/hot cup of a drink just before a shower helps me. It warms me up so I no longer dread the cold. Frequent warm sprays running the warm water down the back helps the body stay warm too.

Really amazed to read all views.

my mom complains that her scalp is itchy all the time. she is 91 and still does the perm thing once every 6 months. should cut down on the shampoo and use conditioner only.

My mom thank goodness loves to go to the hairdresser. We make a fun time of it and the hairdresser is very patient with her. She curls her hair up like it used to look and she admires herself in the mirror. When she's no longer able to go to the beauty salon, I am considering using my own haircutting system, the Flowbee, a gadget that cuts all to one length (you pick the length based on the attachment) and just vacuum her hair all over. The cutter is on a hose attached to a vicious little vacuum that sucks all the hair up. So there's no mess, no itchy hair particles. And I like my hair cut just fine. Has anybody else tried one of these for their Moms? I figure to hide the noisy vacuum in the next room to muffle the sound.

I appreciated this article. When I first started caring for my elderly dad, I considered his hair care (especially combing/styling in the morning) as the lowest priority item. I would often try to hurry him away from the mirror so we could get to the breakfast table.. But as time went on and he consistently ask me to comb his hair or to put some gel in it to get rid of a cowlick, I could see how important his hair still is to him. And I started thinking how I would feel if someone rushed ME way from my mirror in the morning when my hair was not behaving.

As for haircuts, last year I started taking my dad to our local SportsClips regularly. They have a senior discount, the decor is sports oriented and upbeat, and the place appears so much more clean than some of these awful barber shops in town (especially the bathrooms--yikes!). Not to mention the easy access into the building.

Thanks for this article. Best wishes.

Nice article. Interesting tips. Thanks

The Golden Estate
Privileged Living for Senior Citizens

My 85 yr old mum is struggling to get out of her chair at all these past 3 weeks (falls asleep at the drop of a hat!)
So getting her to the kitchen to the sink to wash her hair has been impossible for weeks.
My mum was always very well turned out, and I know she hates seeing how she looks.
So today I decided to wash her hair in the lounge in her chair!
I took a waterproof hairdressers cape round, putting a big towel on top, and a small one tucked into her neck, and gently wet her hair using a sponge dipped in a plastic jug.
I then applied shampoo, and again used the sponge to sponge out the bubbles. (I changed the water in the jug 3 times, so I got the soap all out)
I then popped her hair in rollers with setting mousse and dried it with the hairdryer.

Took a little longer than normal, but we had no other option (dry shampoo for 3 weeks! Yuk)

I then did her make up and got the mirror... HUGE smile (before she fell back to sleep again!)

Worth a try folks, it really lifted my mum's spirits (she used to be always perfectly coiffed and made up... hates her decline, so this really cheered her up. Dad called me to say she was so happy tonight)

I am not very good at fixing my mom's hair either. I have a sister that is better at it than I am and tends to be critical of my efforts. Being reminded that humor helps and that perhaps I don't have to be as good as a pro helps a lot. Just relieving some of the pressure and anxiety I feel over fixing her hair will probably help with the final results too! Thank you for the gentle reminders that we are all doing the best we can for our loved one.

Nice article. Interesting tips. Thanks.

The Golden Estate
Privileged Living for Senior Citizens

This is a difficult issue. I have many hospice clients whose families are looking for a hairdresser to visit their homes. Good article, Carol.

I am trianing to be a CNA and i need some advice on what works best with the clients how to talk to them and how to make them feel comfortable with me i dont want to mess anything up and make them not want to work with me im a little nervous...

I have a resident that recently got about 4 inches cut off her hair ( thin hair ). Now the hair close to the scalp is curly, what would make this so curly?

My client only allows ME to wash/style her hair. (She has 24/7 care, so there are a few of us!) I think it's because of our routine. I first rub warm coconut oil into her scalp where she has dryness. Then I lather her up and scrub well. After she does her washing, etc, I wrap her head in a hand towel I've heated in the dryer. Actually I heat three towels; two large and one hand towel. Spoiled? Yep!

There are Shampoo caps available that have shampoo, conditioner and are 'no rinse'. Warm in microwave (let cool down some) and then you can give your elder a nice, warm shampoo in a cap.

This works especially well for my mother since she is confined to bed and this is so much better than having to use regular shampoo and water and trying to get the water to drain into a bucket instead of the bed.