What a great answer I am so glad that I am now able to get out to see my Mom and make her life less stressful and I go strongly urge my brothers to go out to visit Mom and remind them she is frail and almost 91 now.
I know a California Brother, with a Sister taking care of Mom in Boston. He asked what the sister hated having to do, and found to his surprise that she hated driving mom to the hairdresser. That gave him the idea to pay for a driver/companion for mom, once month. There are times when he adds tickets to the matinee, and they both go with the driver. Or mom goes with her girlfriend. Introducing other people to a senior takes time, they have been using the driver companion for over 6 months now, and at first it was uncomfortable, it has become something they both look forward to now.
Having been a caregiver for several years, along with my sister, it was especially helpful that our brother always thanked us for taking are of our parents every single time he called us on the phone from another state far away. He always said that whatever decisions we made were okay with him as we were the ones here with our parents. A nice thinking of you note often would be helpful for your sister as well. Send her a gift certificate for something you know she is interested in and encourage her to find a "babysitting" service of some sort so that she can get away as often as possible. Just being there for her is so important. JR
I am puzzled by the way you phrased the question - it told us nothing about your sister or mother. In the kindest, gentlest way I know how, I'd like to suggest that it might help you find the answer if you re-phrase the question ..... here is an example of another way to ask yourself.
My sister, who is ____________________________ lives ____________________ and has been taking care of our mother who has __________________________ for 6 years. Our relationship is ________________________ and upon reflection I realize that I would like to help in some way. What is the best way to go about helping her because I know that she is carrying a heavy burden?
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How can I show my appreciation to my sister who cares for Mom full time?
My sister, who is ____________________________ lives ____________________ and has been taking care of our mother who has __________________________ for 6 years. Our relationship is ________________________ and upon reflection I realize that I would like to help in some way. What is the best way to go about helping her because I know that she is carrying a heavy burden?