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I hope the handle is just what you were looking for. They make operating the handle so much easier.
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Unfortunately confused memories are part of the aging process, memories from our long term memory seems to get confused with more recent events and the individual is convinced that they are correct, in many instances it's best to agree, or say nothing, I know that it is very frustrating but for your own sanity try not to get too angry usually in a few hours they have forgotten while you are still fuming. Hope this helps.
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My late Father in law was convinced the last several years of his life that my mother in law was running around having numerous affairs. He had got to where he couldn't perform sexually and just went nuts about it including remembering things that just didn't happen. It got bad enough that my mother in law left the home for a couple of weeks and stayed at her sisters. He was giving everyone in the family hell about anything he could think of. But for outsiders, he was good as gold.

MIL came back and we managed to get him into a mental health facility where after a few weeks stay and some new meds, he was a changed man for the last year of his life. He was actually pleasant to be around and we enjoyed a lot of long talks that just didn't happen before.
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oliverrag, that is a beautiful story! Undoubtedly, healing for you and your siblings. Thank you for sharing this and the gentleness of how going along with the "false memory" is essential for the emotional health of the individual experiencing it since forcing them to re-experience a painful situation can actually re-traumatize them. This coupled with redirection to an actual memory may calm their anxieties.
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My father is a 90 year old ALZ/Dementia patient. The last 4 or 5 years, he has transferred most of the rotten things he did as a parent/husband onto my mom. He will tell stories of how she cheated, drank, stayed gone, partied with strangers, went on vacations by herself or with other men, blew all their money, ignored us, stayed out all night, how she flirted with other men right in front of him, etc. He makes himself out to be a saint in all of his stories. Basically he has made her out to be a slut that he hated his entire life and he was the long-suffering husband who worked hard and then spent the rest of his time raising his 3 children with no help from her. As I wrote, he transferred ALL of his wrong-doings onto her. Nothing will convince him otherwise. To be honest, there were times when I wished that my mother HAD gone out and raised some heck and had a life, lol. But she was a very old-fashioned stay at home, PTA meetings, substitute teacher, cooking every day, immaculate home, made her own bread and jellies and jams, put up food from the garden, homework-helping mother, never drank, never smoked, hardly ever said a whispered almost bad word under her breath other than if she was losing at the local Bingo game held at our school (smiles here). She deserved to do some fun things, yet she waited on him hand and foot and kept her mouth shut the countless times she had to go pick him up from strange homes after a wild weekend after he had partied and lost the car yet again. Since I lived at home until I was married, and kept in close contact with my mom until she died, every other day at least on the phone, I KNOW she did none of these things. But in his mind, every transgression is now transferred to her. And my dad has no problems at all sharing this with every person he meets. As far as false memories daily go, yes, I believe that most of us have an ALZ or Dementia family member who suffers from false memories...where they are, what they did that day, what belongs to whom, stories of when they fought in a war, lived here or there, mixing up old movies they have seen with part of their past life, etc. We just roll with those, smile, agree, change the subject if we can. But I refuse to allow him to slander the memory of his wife who has been dead for over 21 years and is not here to defend herself.
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Well the doc said it looked like the beginning of another UTI. He went through the antibiotic regimen but still has the memory.
And as far as the financial problems, we had to move in with a friend of mine from my past. Unfortunately it's up here in Virginia outside of Quantico and that has apparently fueled additional false memories to the original.
Now he thinks he's talked to the FBI and they were supposed to come and test my mother's ashes in the urn because he thinks it's dirt.
This morning he told me that while I was gone for a day and a half (had to go back to Florida to get my car) that the an FBI agent came by and did something on his computer that let him see mom talking to some guy outside her brothers house in Alabama.
I think these are actually dreams that are somehow being stored in his memory so that he thinks they happened because he also said that I was using him as a punching bag yesterday. I asked what he meant and he said there's no point in going into it if he has to say it. So I think he means that I was taking something out on him or something like that. I explained that I just got back this morning at 2:30 am and asked if he remembered me telling him that I was leaving on Monday for Florida. I guess he did because he said well maybe it was a dream.

The hardest part of these is when he wants me to do something to validate these false memories so he can show me they're true. But even if I do and it shows he's wrong either I'm contacting the wrong person or they're conspiring with me to make him out to be a liar or something to that effect.
Ignoring them or redirecting isn't too bad it's when he wants me to validate somehow that is infuriating because when he does that he doesn't let it go.
The only saving grace is he's not constantly harping on them.
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My father suffers from dementia and his delusion is hard to ignore or accept. He believes that my mother and one of my brothers have had an ongoing affair. My parents have been married for 60 years. M brother is 58 years old and happily married to a beautiful woman. He moved my parents into his beautiful home when they could no longer live in their 2-story townhouse. This is tearing the family apart. My father is so mean to my brother and it is very hurtful for my brother to think that his father hates him. I have since moved my parents to an apartment a few blocks from my home and my brother wants to visit. I need to sit down and talk to my dad about this and try to convince him that it is not true before my brother arrives. My mother has tried to discuss this with father several times, as has my brother and my older brother, but my father is absolutely convinced that the affair happened and will probably assume that my brother is coming to visit so that the affair can continue. My dad and mom are 84 and 82, respectively, and we would like them to be able to enjoy their final years with their family. Any advice?
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sorry that this posted twice
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