I was born on Pierce Brosnan's 14th birthday.
I was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm, before 1yr.-old. I have clips on the aneurysm, made before 1980, that. Make having an MRI, potentially fatal.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Sizemore#Death
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grant_Imahara#Death_and_legacy
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laura_Branigan#Death
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Curulewski#Personal_life_and_death
That in turn, caused hydrocephalus
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tim_Conway#Illness_and_death
The six(needed) brain surgeries(13mos.-8yrs.)
Caused seizures
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florence_Griffith_Joyner#Death
I was married(1992-2000)
I was engaged(2002-2007)
I was engaged, again(2007-2012)
My developmentally-disabled (ex)wife. Ran out of the bedroom, when. I had a severe seizure. No call to 911.
My first (ex)fiancee has Bipolar II, and. Probably Borderline Personality Disorder. When I had two severe seizures', in front of her. She didn't run, she called 911. We even lived 1,150mi. from my mother
While I didn't have any seizures' in front of my second (ex)fiance. Her OCD caused her to obsess about my health, which. Considering my (ex)wife's ignorance, was refreshing.
The title of this song: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Owner_of_a_Lonely_Heart
Is what I live with every day. My mother makes it worse. On top of the fact, that. My younger brother said something very cruel to my mother, at Christmas. Now she wonders, if. She will ever see him again.
A woman two years younger than me, that. I hoped to start a relationship with. Died suddenly in 2021 from Dialated Cardiomyopathy, that. Wasn't found until her autopsy.
When I was married, I was the one who had to take care of everything. My (ex)wife only wanted to be involved, when. It suited her. I had a seizure in front of her. Her only reaction was to jump off the (platform)waterbed, and run out of the bedroom. Fifteen years after I got my divorce. My (ex)wife was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. Whining, "My life is over!!!" I didn't feel an ounce of sadness. That was in 2015. She also stopped denying, she has a disability. She is still alive.
My mentally ill (ex)fiance, told me right from Day One, she has Bipolar II Disorder. While she was emotionally abusive. When it came to my physical health. She didn't mess around, and. Was quick to call 911. On three separate occasions.
Do you understand my experience?
If you are of sound mind, the Medical POA is probably not in effect so Mom can't force you into a home. You can have her MPOA revoked and assign someone else. An 85 year old maybe should not making decisions for you.
Seems your marriages are to people who too are disabled in someway. You need someone who can be dedicated to you. At 57 (Pierce Brosnan is 71) its going to be hard to find someone who can and will care for you. And really, you don't have much luck when it comes to wives. I may give up on that. Maybe what Mom is suggesting is more of an Assisted Living or group home where there is staff to watch over you. You still have your freedom just there is someone qualified there when you have a seizure. Assisted Livings are usually private pay. Maybe your State has a Medicaid voucher that will help you.
Did you "understand your ex wife's experience" when she was scared to death being diagnosed with cancer and when you didn't "feel an ounce of sadness" for her?
Everyone needs a POA.
A "home" is an apartment building where caregivers are available 24/7 And where 3 hot meals per day are served. Activities abound as well as social interactions. If you are deemed competent, you can make your own decisions and override your mom as POA. If not, then what she says goes.
Its wise that we all recognize our own limitations in life and accept them.
If you have a question, feel free to ask it.
If it's your mother's house, she has a right to decide who lives there with her. If you don't want to go to a "home," you could arrange for your own place to live so that she doesn't have to place you in one.
Maybe your mother feels that she'll need to sell her house and downsize or go into a care home herself soon, and wants to make sure that you are in a good place before then.