What to do with my mother's ashes?

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What to do with my mother's ashes?

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LOL! My MIL lost her husband in the late 70's kept hubbys ashes with her on each move for 40 or so years. The cremains were lost on the last move, searched and searched, finally found. Her cremains were mixed with his and scattered on Mt Hood. Sorry, maybe a bit insensitive, but we all laughed!😂

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Ladycoco, I'm sure a death certificate would suffice.

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I really like the idea of a biodegradable urn and am going to tell my children that is what I want! Where they put it is up to them..I have a tombstone in my father's family plot about 120 miles away. But they can put it in their backyard without a marker if they wish.

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Did Mom have a particular place she loved; a park, stream, lake or beach?

Ask other family members if they know any favorite place she ever talked about.

Before you do decide to dispose of her ashes, just think about having a small portion of her ashes placed in a pendant made especially for a keepsake. Many mortuaries offer them; you can keep a small part of her so when if ever you're able to forgive, you'll have that small part you can wear near your heart.

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My husband has a similar problem as he has the ashes of his father, mother and aunt. He is also an only child. I would call him a world-class procrastinator. If I outlive him it will all be my problem. If you are too cheap to buy a place at a cemetery (as I would do), burial on private property may be an option. Please do not pollute your local beach, stream or pond!

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Too cheap??? Hmmm....

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After all this talk of ashes, I now know exactly what I want.
(Dont know if they will be able? But hey lol)

Wrap me up and burn me (No service, just a straight cremation) (if they insist on a coffin, then make it a cardboard one)
Pay for my ashes (I will leave enough for that)
Find a wood or forest and scatter me randomly. I will go back to nature.
They will be able to visit the woods to remember me (if they want to) without the need to feel that they MUST.
A wood is beautiful, so should help with happy thoughts. I dont want sadness.

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Funeral plots are NOT inexpensive. People pay a lot to bury their family. I wouldn't consider anyone who doesn't want to pay those funds as "cheap."

It's sad that sometimes we're judged by what we do for our loved ones after death, when it's more important to be concerned how we treat them while they're living.

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My father asked to have his ashes scattered around his hometown. So I made a list of places that were important to him and have been leaving a little bit at each one. I also left some at his parents and grandparents graves.

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I don't know where you're from, but in West Virginia there are old cemeteries where you be be buried for free. I'm sure they would take ashes too.

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This post reminded me of a friend whose grandmother wanted to be scattered over the Sierra Nevada mountains. They wrapped her ashes in a scarf, went up in a small plane, opened the door and dumped her out. Problem was, the scarf wasn't long enough and the prop wash blew a lot of the ashes back in the plane. He said, they probably vacuumed more of grandma up than got dumped over the mountains.

My girlfriend has her Mother-in-Law, Father-in-Law, and husband in one closet. Her mother is at her brother's house in a closet. Her father is in another closet at her house with the ashes of a lady she took care of. She said her mother would turn over in her urn if she knew her husband was in the closet with that other gal.

Sometimes you have to laugh or cry.

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