My married grandmother who is 63, has been taking care of my 87 year old great-grandpa. She lives in house with him. She is a diabetic, and her health isn't the greatest. He is well over 300lbs, over this past year his health has declined. He has been in and out of the hospital, and rehab to help him get stronger. The doctors have declared him as a fall risk, and he has stopped getting out of bed as much. He has started peeing the bed, and relying on my grandma to clean and care for him. He won't let her bathe him. My grandmother, is becoming wore out, and her health has started to decline as well. There are days when you can tell my great-grandfathers mental state is starting to detoriate. He is a very stubborn man, and gets ill with her, and her husband ((her husband)who now refuses to even come over when he is home off the road). He refuses to hire in home help, or go to a nursing home. My grandma can't handle the physical aspects of this situation anymore. Her husband is an over the road truck driver, when he comes home she never gets to see him. Her husband had threatened to divorce her if something doesn't change. My great grandfather has meals on wheels delivered Monday-Friday. My grandma can't leave him at the house by himself for even 10 minutes to run to the store per doctors orders. We are wondering what she can do. She can't physically take care of him anymore, and he refuses in home help, and well as a nursing home facility.