Toileting transfering burnout. Any help?

Just had a thought -- gripper strips for her feet. We used them on walker handles; they're either lightweight rubber, or something like that. Wrapped around the handles, they provide extra traction for someone to hold onto.

I'm wondering about a gripper strip on the floor so her feet don't slide?

Just googled "gripper strips"; I see there are larger strips to put on floors to prevent skidding and/or sliding. Maybe something like that would help provide traction, to at least address the slipping aspect?

Just rereading your posts and wondering...if she doesn't walk, I assume there's some atrophy in her legs. Would this be why she kind of slips when she sits down, b/c of lack of strength? If so, then maybe there's another approach to the problem, but I honestly am not sure what it would be.

Nurses and hospice workers, can you help out???

PS I bought her thick treaded sneakers but I cant twist her on the toilet with those so I had to go back to the regular ones so I dont twist her ankles.

Hi , thank you all. Details. No she cannot use her hands to hold on. I basically stand her up, weight on her legs somewhat, twist her onto the toilet and sit her with a 8" foam pillow behind her. As I am leaning over her (in front of her) her feet slide out. What a bugger to get them back, she doesnt move, strong as an ox, if her brain only could tell them what to do. So shes kind of like trying to lay down on the toilet and starts leaning over. I am trying to wash her bum and keep her up at the same time.
I did try a commode chair but there was a bar across the chair on the bottom (like behind where ankles would be), and I couldnt get her far enough back into the commode chair.

Would she hold on to commode rails if you got one? (Like a frame around the toilet) and a footstool to keep hips and knees more flexed? There are more supportive commode chairs available too.

I'm not sure exactly what is happening, she can't sit up on the toilet without support, or you are having difficulty with the transfer, or both? Or is it more that you are having difficulty cleaning her up after because she can't help?
Don't be shy with the details.

Sorry; I kind of suspected that. Hopefully someone else has experience with this situation.

It occurred to me that some people here have worked in hospice; they might have some suggestions to offer.

Sorry I couldn't be of any help.

Would a bidet that you attach to your toilet help out? It is a sprayer that would clean your mom while you hold her in place. You can buy them to attach to a toilet.

Another idea would be to use toilet rails and have a very soft piece of long fabric that you'd loop around your mom's waist and attach her to the rails to keep her somewhat upright?

I don't have that issue with my mom, so I have no idea if either of these would help. Good luck...you're doing a very difficult job by yourself.

Gardenartist , thanks but my Mom cannot hold anythng, her hands to not work like ours, she has no understanding of it.

You don't really need to post 3 times; in fact it only splits up the answers and prevents others from seeing what's already been posted. I would PM the Admins and ask them to delete the other 2 duplicate posts.

I haven't been through this, so I don't have many suggestions except the floor to ceiling (what looks like a stripper) pole, that your mother could hang onto while you're cleaning up.

It seems the difficulty is mobility, strength and positioning and something that your mother could hang onto while standing might help, the question being whether or not she has that strength.

Another option is to have a pull down bar installed from the ceiling. She would hold onto that with her arms, while standing. Again, the question is the issue of strength.

There might be other options, such as a bar that swings out from the wall; again she would have to be able to hold onto it while standing.

If you did choose any of these methods, the installation would have to be by a professional carpenter who knows how to attach them into the studs; mollies aren't acceptable.

I wish I had some good suggestions for you, but I know there are others here who have gone through this and I'm hoping they come along to offer help.

I'm wondering also if the nurses her have suggestions as they would have seen this situation at hospitals.