We live in California (don't know if California Code pertains to some of the children who currently don't assist parent financially).
My sister specifically said I was not to go to mom's house as I stir her up too much and it causes her Crohn's to flare up. Mom agrees with her (sister has put mom totally dependent on her). She writes when she wants money "for mom". I don't send anything, but one brother sends her money (cash) every month without no thank you from mom or sister. Sister has promised mom that she would take care of her forever.
Question is: if sister decides to place mom in a NH or AL can she come after us for money?
Back in 2011, mom was diagnosed with early dementia and now things are better (according to sister). I didn't know once diagnosed with dementia, iyou could get better from it.