Sibling threatening to leave dementia parent on door step. Is there anything I can do to stop this from happening?

If she does that call the police there is laws that protect the older people

Without more information, I would wonder what you are doing to help support your sibling.

Caregiving, making all the decisions, managing a person’s entire life is EXHAUSTING and STRESSFUL.

What is the other side of this story?

This happened to my Mom when her sisters actually left my grandmother, with no warning, on the door step of our home. This was forty years ago. Mom with 4 small kids and a husband took care of her for one week. Grandmom kept wandering away and had lots of incontinence. After a week my Mom had to return grandmom back to the sisters. There was a big family meeting with all 7 aunts and uncles and it was decided that grandmom would be going to a nursing home. Everyone would collaborate financially as Grandmom did not have any money.

This happens yet now in this age. If no one can care for your loved one, best to place them and keep checking on them. Caregiving is tough work and I know this from my own experience.

I now am the full time caregiver of my Mom who is mid stage Alzheimers. I get no help from my siblings. If it came to the point I could not care for my Mom, I would also place her for her sake and mine.

Do the best, talk to your sibling get a plan for you Mom's care and continued to living arrangement. There are services for elder care in the home too.

Talk first, formulate a plan and put it to action to benefit all , especially your Mom.

Cecilia

This is personal experience, I think all siblings should share in the caregiving.
If for some reason you can’t then place her in a nursing home. I unfortunately had to do that with my mom. I had to work and I had 3 kids to take care of. I was scared when my mom was home that she would wonder off.
I got backlash but nobody lives in your shoes but you

Did you call the police?
Adult Protection / Social Services?
Attorney?

Wow, just wow. You have to read for an hour to find out better details, because there is not enough in the original post (common, very bad mistake). Tons of advice from people who don't know the whole truth. LOL. Just find a way to get her on Medicaid and admitted somewhere she can settle in.

Rarely do I ever completely clash with most other people here, but without more information, we cannot help you. If you're capable of helping your sibling care for your mom, then you have an obligation to help. Have you ever done care for an elderly person with dementia? It's not easy at all. Why should your sibling be the only one to suffer through caring for her? If you refuse to chip in, then you kind of had this coming. It may not be legal for her to just ditch your mother there, but if you report her to the police, then you pretty much killed any family interaction. You'd be the family outcast who's not invited to any parties and is ignored, and I wouldn't blame them one bit. Instead, take her to an old folks home. It really can't be helped if your sibling is being overwhelmed with care. It's not even fair to stick your mother with only one sibling in the first place. Too much burden. I'd like to see this from your siblings perspective.

Maddogs66,
I was just checking back in with you to see how you are doing! I just wanted you to know that someone out there is praying for you and cares about your family situation! The thought of your poor mama being dropped at your doorstep must worry the heck out of you, especially with her being blind! Have you notified APS yet? Please consider doing that if you haven't already done so! You are in my thoughts and prayers!

Confabulation. And misinformation.

Why is she thinking of doing this? Has she been providing all the care and feels its your turn, or are you not giving her the support she needs? Seems a strange idea to express if she is happy with the current situation.

Has Maddoggs been back?

May have moved. Now there's another solution.

How heartless! I think he doesn't want to take care of her in any way. I think you should put her in a nursing home or a good highly acclaimed facility in this case. I'm sorry you're being put in this position.

Obviously the best place for mom is a facility and indeed, that is where she has been. This is sounding to me like two siblings locking horns and maybe OP took the attitude that if sis removed mom from care in Missouri, than it would all be on her to fix. I can kind of understand that - after all, if the facility in MO was a decent place, then why move mom? Because she was complaining? Well that happens and unless the complaints are researched and seen to be valid, then ignore mom's complaints. Sometimes there is really no other way. The sibling who took mom to Atlanta really had the responsibility to think ahead about the financial aspect.