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He is currently going through chemo and has fallen at least 5 or 6 times in the house. He lost weight and is very weak from the side effects of chemo. Three to 4 days after chemo he can't stand on his feet and doesn't sleep well. He is not making rational decisions. Recently my daughter drove with him and he was weaving on the road although he got where they were going.
I'm very concerned being his POA.
Please advise.


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Obviously not. Drive dad around while he goes thru chemo.
Best of luck to you.
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I think you already know he shouldn’t be driving.
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Yes,it's time to take the keys away and hide them or disable the vehicle. It's too bad your daughter couldn't take over the driving at the time. He's going through a rough ordeal and should be resting, not out and about. If he can't rationalize that he's endangering the people around him and himself, most definitely he shouldn't be driving. Arrangements should be made to get him to Dr appointments or shopping. You're right, as POA you have a responsibility to protect him from himself and protect the people around him. I'm surprised the Dr's treating him hasn't specified his limitations. Do you have his health care directive too? Someone should be going with him to the Dr and getting the feedback about his condition.
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Would you let him take your grandchild in the car with him?
Would you ride with him?
I am guessing no.
From what you have described he does not sound safe at this time.
I say that because some of this might be caused by his current treatment. If he has not had problems previously it might be related. Meaning once he has completed treatment and regains strength he might be a safe driver. That remains to be seen. For now I would say he should not drive.
You can ask his doctor to say that for now he should not be driving.

I am not one to say that just because of a persons age they should not drive. There are ways to evaluate a driver and that should be done before he drives again.
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If he has no strength to walk, he has no stength to stop a car. Take his keys away and park the car at someone elses house,
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No. Someone who cannot make rational decisions and who is this weak should not be driving at 92.
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No he should not be. Driving requires snap decisions and reflexes. Even if he wasn't on chemo, it isn't wise to let am elderly person drive. I know when my late husband has chemo he was given Benadryl which made him sleepy. Chemo causes a lot of weakness and sleepy feelings so I would say either have someone take him or look into a shuttle service.


The days Mark had immunotherapy and I couldn't get off work, a shuttle took him to and from appointments. Medicare paid for nine rides a year.
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Well, at 92 reflexes so slow down, a lot. I wouldn't want to drive in a big city at that age. Chemo also causes a lot of brain fog where you have short-term memory lapses. Some people also feel sick to their stomach on chemo, so driving and needing to hurl would be unpleasant.
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If you are concerned, and your daughter witnessed unsafe driving, you should definitely take away the keys!
Giving up driving privilege is something many elders fight against. It is a loss of
freedom and mobility. Make sure it's his doctor or the motor vehicle department who gives the order for him to stop driving.

Be sensitive to his needs and his desire to get around by offering to drive him or setting up a ride app and showing him how to use it, or do it for him, so he doesn't feel suddenly panicked that he is unable to go where he needs.
Make it an easy transition for him.

Show him how easy it can be to order groceries and virtually anything else online to be delivered to his front door. It could be a relief for him to know how to get what he needs and get around without driving.
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You can contact the Department of Motor Vehicles since you have POA and have his license revoked. Explain to him that the DMV removed it so he doesn’t aim his anger towards you…he is a danger to himself and others. 🫶🏻
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