Need an adult pull-up incontinence brief with narrow crotch. Any suggestions?

I suggest you contact a company in Southern California called Dependable Daughter

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The company was started by women who became caregivers for their parents. They experienced the same difficulties as most of us have had in caring for someone with bathroom issues. Look at their website. There is a phone number to chat with them. The woman who answered when I called was so compassionate and understanding. She understood my issue and had good suggestions. She also sent a HUGE box of samples of what they offer that she thought my husband could use. Their delivery was the next day (of course I am in So Cal which probably helped.)
I brought the box of samples to my support group and we all discussed the pros and cons of each style. Besides finding underwear that may solve your problem, you will feel you have another asset in your corner. Good luck.

Poise has a number of different feminine products for this. Or you may want to try an elder specialty supply store or catalogs.

There are the reusable protective underwear for women that are better contoured. I know for my mother the wider the better to catch all the urine. I sometimes think the store brand has to narrow of a crotch area.

I order these for my Mom, Assurance Women's Maximum Absorbency Underwear, Lavender, S/M, 60 Ct from Jet.com. Way better pricing and I've heard no complaints from her or the staff at her AL.

What kinds of pads are good for bowel problems?

If she does not leak a lot of urine, she could try one of the ultra thin maxi pads on the market that is normally used for menstruation.

There is a company called Tena that makes what they call period panties. They are material and not the paper type, supposedly you can wear them rather than pads for your periods, maybe these would work for her since she has very light leakage.

My Mom used the incontinence pads but they are not good for bowel problems, right?

I'm afraid they are wide in the crotch because that's where they need to be most absorbent. I thought Always Discrete were a little less bulky but no doubt they have the same design as the rest. Texasdr has already mentioned trying the pads (look for incontinence pads, don't try menstrual ones), they start in very thin and barely there styles and go all the way up to very large and highly absorbent. They're a cheaper option too.

Tena work hard on this point, though I can't promise any of their products will be perfectly comfortable. Try www.tenaprofessionals.us for information about this and continence care in general.

I agree that with any product your mother is going to notice the unfamiliar bulk, and I'm afraid it might just be a question of getting used to it :(

Then again, if she doesn't mind your asking personal questions, or if she'd be happy to consult a specialist continence care nurse perhaps, it might be worth checking that there isn't any other source of discomfort such as chafed skin, sores, or some kind of infection.

Have you tried Poise underwear? I know they are nice. Look for them at your local Walmart bc they are much cheaper there or any supermarket. You can google it first to find out if the stores around you have them. You just type in ‘poise underwear on sale near me’ and it will pull it all out for you.
I used them for my mom. They too are contoured to fit a woman’s body. They also make a pad in different thickness as well.
I hope you find something your mom likes. I know how difficult this is. 🦋

Funny you should mention pads. Just this evening, Mom and I talked about using "incontinence" pads. Not sure what the difference is between that and a "feminine" pad, but I did skip over an article while researching incontinence products that stated what that difference is! Guess I should have read it.

lol, I literally have had to tell mother about 20 times today that she is wearing a brief, She has asked, WHAT IS THIS and says ITS SO BIG
she wears those depends small but they have a huge pad in the middle- They are made to absorb quite a bit. We only have small accidents occasionally. So I am following this. I have even considered maxi pads ...